What if we get what we ask for? We find a partner where the boxes are checked and then time passes only to expose a faded version of what used to be so fulfilling. It's as if the sun has created so much damage the original color is no longer recognizable. That's my metaphor for some of the confusion that sets in during a long-term relationship. Passion, novelty and desire don't have to fade!

Listen as Esther Perel, a relationship therapist gives insight on connecting some of these common challenges.