For the final episode of season 1, Becca is rejoined by Liz and Jess to discuss a question they've each found it helpful to use when working with tweens and teens, whether as their kids or students: what's right with you? Liz opens it up with a story many parents can relate to of how hard it can be sometimes not to slip out with a "what's wrong with you?" when a kid makes a particularly big slip that just seems inexplicable, and this turns into a conversation about how we can help ourselves and our teens notice that what's right with anyone is often the flip side of what's "wrong" with them--and how we can use some techniques from the business world to do some "lean parenting," as Becca calls it, to make it easier to move forward.

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Recently a listener reached out to Becca to ask about when to focus on building sustainable motivation vs when to just use standard extrinsic motivators, like rewards and punishments. To discuss this topic, Becca pulled in her spouse and co-parent, Mark Fasano, because it's both a topic with no one-size-fits-all-answer, and a topic they've discussed many times before. Becca shares how her tendency is to err on the side o building sustainable motivation, Mark on how his is to prioritize whatever will get the job done in the moment. They share examples of when it's worked well to learn from each other and crack jokes that only other Gen Xers will get.

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High school teacher Diane Manser started a journal a few years ago, trying to navigate the emotional work of being a teacher. At the request of other teachers, she turned that into the book I Didn't Sign Up For This. She joins today's conversation to share the key insight sh had as a teacher that allowed her to change how she navigates the hard emotional labor of teaching (& parenting): being in charge is not the same as being in control. She and Becca chat about how there's a lot of overlap between what motivates young people to learn and what motivates teachers to keep showing up for a tough job.

Check out teachingisemotional.com and her instagram, facebook, and tiktok pages for more.

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In contrast with last week's episode, this week we delve into the flip side of the college question with Kadeem Leslie. He was a straight A student in college, went on to get a Master's degree, and then became an entrepreneur and investor -- and began to wonder at the exact return on investment (ROI) of college degrees. He shares his somewhat controversial but thoughtful take on how parents and students could work together to evaluate whether college or a more entrepreneurial, non-college pathway might be the best fit for a teenager interested in figuring out how they're going to earn money in adulthood. Listen in on today's episode to learn tips for evaluating exactly what the ROI is on that degree you're considering, how to run some simple experiments to see if an alternate pathway (like being a youtuber or trader) is right for you, and more. You can find Kadeem on instagram at iamkade_ and on youtube as well. And here are links to the two resources he mentioned in the episode: https://siteselection.com/cc/workforce/2022/education-level-is-only-one-part-of-the-lifetime-earnings-picture.cfm and https://freopp.org/oppblog/we-calculated-return-on-investment-for-30-000-bachelors-degrees-find-yours/

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In this episode, we discuss a question many parents and educators share: how do I handle it when the teen in front of me is just absolutely losing their you-know-what in front of me? We've all been there: the teen or pre-teen in front of us is realy upset, crying or yelling, and we're wondering "well now what do I do?" Shahin has faced this experience directly herself as a parent, and coached many parents on how to approach it as a mindfulness teacher, and she shares tips today on how to navigate those emotionally fraught moments without regrets. Stay tuned for a particular tip she gives in the latter third of the episode on what to do with the 90 seconds it takes for an emotion to move through your body--it's one I (Becca) hadn't heard before, even though I've practiced meditation for decades, and I've tried it since recording this conversation and really found it helpful.

You can find out more about Shahin and the resources she references in this episode at mindful-changes.com, where you can also find her links to her socials and to free resources.

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