It’s one of the questions we get asked the most, and this week we’re finally talking about it. After years of watching couples up close on one of the biggest days of their lives, we’ve seen just about everything—moments that melted our hearts, and a few that made us quietly wonder how the night (or the marriage) would end.

In this episode, we’re sharing some of the stories that stuck with us, the red flags we’ve noticed along the way, and the subtle signs that reveal how two people really work together when the pressure’s on. It’s honest, funny, and maybe a little unfiltered, but that’s what makes it good.

If you’ve ever wondered what planners really think after seeing hundreds of weddings from behind the scenes, this one’s for you.