You have more choices than you think you do. ** You can say no. Before you do, ask what the consequences are. Ask a lot of questions. ** Don’t check out on making choices--check IN! ** Try not to pop other people’s comforting bubbles. Go gently with information for others. ** Know how YOU want to get information. ** We are all lost in the woods and doing the best we can. ** Stay out of the “what might have been” as much as you can. Don’t build your house there, and make your vacations there SHORT. ** “I did the best I could with the information I had.” ** Be aware of any guilt or shame you might have about the choices you make. ** You have to be aware of your animal instincts to run. ** Choose to choose. ** Take time off if you can take time off.