** There is no escaping the guilt and shame—deal with it now or later

** You will have survivor’s guilt, or guilt about how much people have sacrificed to help you

** You will have shame about your scars and imperfections—disease can feel shameful

** Cancer allows you to speak your truth—use that to burn off the guilt and shame

** Guilt can turn into a spiral, so watch out for feeling guilty about feeling guilty

** Recognize your own guilt, and recognize when you are getting guilt from other people

** Shine a light on all your feelings and allow yourself to talk about it

** Therapy can help you move through the guilt and shame

** Practice honesty with yourself and others--practice authenticity

** We don’t choose the Phoenix Fire