Lovelies, it’s Nefe: I’ve been ill and will take November and December off to rest and recover, returning in the new year around January 5th.

Take care of yourselves this holiday season—listen to your body, set boundaries, avoid unnecessary arguments, and re-listen to past episodes if you need a reminder.

Check the website: nefe wellness.com

Ep 38 — The Confidence in Starting Over

We start with friction-free first steps (Ian pre-loads the car, collects the keys, and they drop a few boxes in the second bedroom on a Tuesday night), then choose pace as self-hospitality (owning it for two weeks: one Saturday to paint, the next to move). Along the way, kindness shows up in small ways (printed boiler and wardrobe instructions from previous residents—angels). From there, we retire the myth that starting over means you failed, and replace it with a gentle mantra: “I don’t need certainty; I need the next honest step.”

You’ll leave with 5 anchors that travel anywhere:

Body: the Arrive Breath (inhale 4, hold 2, exhale 6) at thresholds.

Space: finish one tiny “first corner” (hello, tea station) before doing everything.

Money: one early bill + autopay as proof of stewardship.

People: one intentional check-in + accepting neighbourly help.

Words: rename the hard thing (“I’m practising energy,” “I’m early at this”).

We close with Three Bricks—a 60-second nightly practice to notice quiet wins and grow self-trust, brick by brick.

If you want a compassionate nudge to begin—without perfection, with more presence—pour something warm and press play.

Takeaways: lower friction, move at a humane pace, update your story, set two anchors, count quiet wins.

Link to show notes: https://nefewellness.com/confidence-in-starting-over-cc-38/ 

Hey my loves, quick update: Big Brew 2 is now available on YouTube.

You can download the workbook from my website or just watch the video. I will put a link to my website in the description. Alright loves, have a great day, bye!

Link: https://nefewellness.com/big-brew-3-manifesting-made-practical/

The host rereads Dr. Joseph Murphy’s The Power of the Subconscious Mind and reframes it as a guide to trusting yourself. The episode shows that the subconscious responds to repetition, not pressure, and shares five gentle practices—morning mind reset, the word “yet,” a nightly proof list, whispered affirmations, and swapping self-deprecating jokes for kinder truths—to help reprogram negative self-talk into kinder, consistent habits.

Ever feel like everyone else has it all figured out while you’re just trying to make it through the day? You’re not alone — and spoiler alert: nobody really has it together.

In this episode of Confidence & Cappuccino, Nefe shows up — cold, blanket, tea and all — to talk about why perfection is overrated and how real confidence is built in the messy middle of life.

From funny “not-so-together” moments to heartfelt truths about self-trust, Nefe reminds us that showing up imperfectly is still showing up — and that’s what confidence truly looks like.

✨ You’ll hear about:

Why “having it all together” is a confidence trap

How to find peace in chaos and show up anyway

The link between humour, imperfection, and resilience

Three gentle ways to let go of perfectionism for good

Grab your cup, exhale, and remember — confidence isn’t built in perfection; it’s built in persistence. ☕

👉 Read the full show notes, transcript, and resources:

Sometimes, the hardest kind of grief isn’t about losing someone — it’s about losing the version of your life you thought you’d have.

In this deeply personal episode, Nefe opens up about navigating health challenges, the pain of letting go of long-held dreams, and learning how to find peace in the middle of change. Through gentle reflection and relatable honesty, she explores what it means to heal without rushing, to honour grief as love, and to rediscover confidence when life takes an unexpected turn.

Whether you’re dealing with loss, change, or simply feeling off-track, this episode is a reminder that your story still matters — even when it looks nothing like you imagined.

☕ Listen now to find compassion, comfort, and quiet courage — one sip at a time.

✨ You’ll Learn:

Why grief isn’t a straight line — and why that’s okay.

How to hold space for both pain and progress.

The quiet power of rewriting your story with self-compassion.

Why confidence often begins in our most vulnerable moments.

💖 Resources and transcript:

Hey my loves, quick update: Big Brew 2 is now available on YouTube.

You can download the workbook from my website or just watch the video. I will put a link to my website in the description. Alright loves, have a great day, bye!

Link: https://nefewellness.com/big-brew-2-wellness-reset/

om sequins to samba rolls, Strictly Come Dancing is more than Saturday night sparkle — it’s a masterclass in confidence. Every season, celebrities step onto the dance floor terrified, imperfect, and unsure… and week by week, they grow.

In this episode of Confidence & Cappuccino with Nefe, I take inspiration from Strictly 2025 (yes, I’m Team Nitro & Karen 💃✨) and share how the show mirrors our own journey of building confidence in real life.

✨ You’ll learn:

Whether you’re a Strictly fan or not, this episode is your reminder: confidence isn’t built in your head. It’s built in action.

👉 Listen now, and find the full transcript + resources at:

Do you ever catch yourself stuck in your own head — replaying conversations, rewriting emails, or planning every detail until the moment has already passed? You’re not alone. Overthinking is one of the biggest confidence killers, and it can keep us frozen right when we most want to move forward.

In this episode of Confidence & Cappuccino with Nefe, we’ll explore how to break free from the overthinking cycle and start taking action — even when it feels uncomfortable.

✨ You’ll learn:

Why we overthink and how it drains confidence.

The real cost of staying stuck in your head.

Four simple strategies to shift from overthinking to action.

Relatable stories and examples of how small steps create big change.

Your confidence isn’t built in endless thinking — it’s built in action.

👉 Listen now, and don’t forget to check out the full transcript and additional resources at nefewellness.com/from-overthinking-to-action-cc33

We often think confidence comes from big achievements — landing the dream job, reaching a huge milestone, or finally “making it.” But the truth? Real confidence is built in the small, quiet wins nobody else sees.

In this episode of Confidence & Cappuccino with Nefe, I’m sharing how the tiniest victories — drinking a glass of water before coffee, folding the laundry instead of living out of “the chair,” sending that scary email, or putting your phone down before midnight — all stack up to create a strong foundation of self-belief.

✨ You’ll learn:

Why your brain loves tiny wins (and the science behind it).

How to celebrate the small things without feeling silly.

Real-life examples of how little steps lead to big changes.

Simple ways to start stacking your own confidence-building wins today.

Your dream life isn’t built in jackpots or giant leaps — it’s built one tiny win at a time.

👉 Listen to Episode 32 now: nefewellness.com/tiny-wins-big-confidence-cc32