Brian shares his long-term hangup with care too much about what others think of him.

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Caring too much about others thoughts.

Hi I'm Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

We've had some weird episodes lately. This is another one.

So this is a conflict, this is confession time, okay, I'm going to tell you the secret of one of my worst vices that I've had most of my life. And the reason why I'm going to go through this is for one, it gives you a chance to get to know me better.

Number two, I'd love to find out from you what your worst vices that you'd be willing to admit, here on the internet.

Three, I think that if you have anything similar and can see it about yourself, that your life can only get better by noticing it by just watching it. And not not seeing it as something that should be normal.

So here's the issue that I've had most of my life, most of my life, I have been worried too much about what other people think. And specifically what they think of me.

If you go back in time, and you look at the string of my life, I was always drawn to things that appeared to allow people to like me more.

So this really weird thing. And I'm not going to go deep into the psychology of why that is and everything else. But so very early on, I realized I really liked acting, and specifically comedic acting. I wanted to do that.

I mean, very, very, very young, probably second, third grade, I decided that was what I was going for. And it was my main focus.

For the next 10 years or so of my life, or longer, I made it was quite a while before that dropped off. But that was that was what I was going to do. And there were other things that I would get pulled this way or that or that.

But that never went away.

Early on, it was always the major focus whether I voiced it to others or not, that was always what I was into.

A whole lot of that came from this insecurity of wanting other people like me. Because I really liked people like Bill Cosby, you know, I'm talking about the 80s, in the early 90s, Bill Cosby and these comedians that were just flawless on the outside, from what you could tell, and everybody liked them, and everybody laughed at them.

It was just it was a very interesting circumstance that I got caught up in.

And I kept going with that idea over and over again. Eventually, I saw that it was an issue. I stepped away from that whole acting bit and only entertainment stuff I walked away from that always fell back into some form of entertainment, in the business world that I don't dwell into.

But, of course, where's it ends up taking me to a world of marketing eventually, of all things.

Don't think the irony isn't lost on market is that is the science of getting into other people's thoughts and trying to understand, understand them and convince them to think otherwise or to convince them to think towards you or your product and so forth.

It's really funny that I ended up in that place for a long time.

It's something that I've seen about myself over and over and over again, the things that I was really drawn to, were those things that allowed me to act without worry about what people thought of me.

The better I've gotten at those things over time, the less than that part of me has held on because it's a horrible situation.