Carol Nyaga, a mother of three, had no idea how to raise a child when she had her first one just after she finished high school. Having watched her parents fumble in their effort to raise her, she, in turn, became a detached mother whose only focus was to provide for her child. She eventually ended up in the advertising sector where her career grew in leaps and bounds... but she was using her work, and alcohol, as crutches to run away from her emotional problems and her inability to be a present mother. In 2020, she experienced a sea change when her third pregnancy and the Covid pandemic forced her to spend time reflecting on her chaotic childhood and what wounds she needed to heal to become a better mother. Here are the lessons she learned.