Why does sex sometimes leave us feeling off — even when we wanted it? (From pretending to connect to pretending to finish…we’re unpacking it all.)

In this episode of Your Aunty Talks Sex, I’m answering these two questions that go deeper than they seem:

First — why do I sometimes feel off after casual sex?

I talk about the mismatch that can happen when our bodies say yes, but our hearts need something else. I share a personal moment from my life where casual sex actually felt freeing — and why that surprised me, especially after growing up with a religious script that told me I should feel shame.

Then I explore something we don’t hear much about: Can men fake it?

The answer is yes. I’ll tell you when I first realized this was happening — about five years into my marriage — and how it led to more honest conversations. We also touch on why anyone might pretend during sex, what it does to connection, and how emotional safety changes everything.

No awkwardness. No hype. Just real talk.

We’re not here to be perfect. We’re here to be real.

🔔Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and conversational purposes only. It does not provide medical or psychological advice. If you’re experiencing distress or need support, please consult a licensed professional in your area.

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