Whose voice are you listening to when you talk to yourself?

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations, Desi Bolin sits down with self-leadership strategist Ly Smith to explore the internal conversations shaping our confidence, decisions, leadership, and lives. Ly shares her journey from losing herself inside the roles she carried to rediscovering her joy, purpose, and voice—and why she believes becoming a creator begins with seeing yourself differently.

In this conversation, you’ll hear about:

The childhood mirror experience that shaped Ly’s understanding of self-talk

What happened when Ly realized she had lost herself inside her roles

The difference between living as a reactor and a creator

Why imposter syndrome can show up when you’re stretching beyond the status quo

Ly’s CANDY Method: Clarity, Affirmation, Necessity, Discipline, and You

How small language shifts can change the way you experience your circumstances

Why acknowledging progress matters more than constantly measuring what remains undone

A simple mirror practice for reconnecting with yourself

How intentional self-talk becomes an act of self-leadership

This episode is for entrepreneurs, executives, leaders, creators, and anyone who’s ever wondered whether the critical voice inside their head is actually their own.

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What if you’re not seeing yourself as you truly are—but through a window shaped by old experiences, other people’s words, and beliefs you’ve carried for years?

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations, Vera Thomas joins me for a thoughtful conversation about childhood messages, self-worth, emotional responsibility, parenting, boundaries, forgiveness, and the inner work required to stop allowing the past to define the future.

Vera shares the personal experiences behind her mission and introduces her powerful “See Your Windows, See Your Life” metaphor as an invitation to examine how we see ourselves—and how we want to see ourselves moving forward.

In this conversation, we explore:

This episode is for you if you’ve ever questioned your worth, recognized an old pattern you’re ready to change, wondered how childhood experiences still influence you, or wanted to become more intentional about what you model for the people around you.

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What’s one old story about yourself you’re ready to examine differently?

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A successful business should give you something beyond revenue. It should create choices, opportunities, time, and ultimately a life you have space to experience.

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations, Desi Bolin sits down with web developer John Bilicki to explore the thinking behind his philosophy: “I build websites, and I sell life.” What begins as a conversation about websites and visibility becomes a much deeper discussion about purpose, fear, self-correction, systems, responsibility, and designing a business around what matters most.

In this conversation, we explore:

This episode is for entrepreneurs, leaders, and business owners who are willing to look beyond surface-level growth and ask a more meaningful question: What is all this work meant to create?

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Hard work can build a successful business. But what happens when the business you built still requires you to work constantly just to keep it moving?

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations, Desi Bolin talks with Sajad Husain of Cause and Effect Consulting about the difference between being busy and being productive—and why organization, accountability, and intentionality may matter more to growth than simply adding more hours to your day.

In this conversation, we explore:

This conversation is for entrepreneurs, consultants, coaches, creators, and leaders who know how to work hard but are ready to examine whether all that effort is producing the results—and the life—they actually want.

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What if the parts of yourself you’ve spent years trying to minimize are actually the parts that allow you to connect most deeply with others?

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations, I’m joined by Danielle Benzon, speaker trainer and founder of The Inspired Speaker, for a deeply human conversation about self-acceptance, authentic expression, emotional maturity, and what happens when we finally stop performing who we think we’re supposed to be.

Danielle knows this journey personally. Growing up, she desperately wanted to blend in. She was bullied, felt uncomfortable in her own skin, and spent years trying to make herself less visible. Ironically, acting—the thing she initially turned to as an escape—became part of the path that brought her home to herself.

That experience now shapes how she approaches speaking and communication.

Rather than teaching people to become polished, cookie-cutter versions of a “professional speaker,” Danielle helps people understand themselves well enough to express who they actually are. Because beneath so much of our fear around speaking isn’t simply a fear of the stage. It’s a fear of judgment. A fear of being seen. A fear that if someone looks closely enough, they’ll discover something we’ve been trying to hide.

And that’s where this conversation goes far beyond public speaking.

We explore the difference between self-acceptance and resignation, why you can’t grow from a facade, and how emotional maturity allows us to feel deeply without making other people responsible for our emotions.

We also talk about leadership and psychological safety—because creating spaces where people can be themselves isn’t about what an organization says it values. It’s reflected in everyday behaviors: whether people can disagree, ask questions, express emotion, contribute differently, and feel heard without being diminished.

Perhaps the most important question Danielle leaves us with is this: How much energy could you reclaim if you stopped trying to be someone you’re not?

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re too much, too different, too sensitive, too unconventional—or simply too weird for the room—this conversation is for you.

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What part of yourself have you been hiding that might actually be one of your greatest strengths?

What if the thing keeping you stuck isn’t a lack of discipline, ambition, or strategy—but a story you’ve been carrying for years?

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations, Desi Bolin sits down with coach Denise Liriano for a deeply human conversation about the hidden stories that shape how we work, lead, parent, relate to others, and see ourselves.

Denise’s perspective comes from lived experience. Growing up in a hardworking household taught her to keep going without stopping to consider what that constant motion was costing her. Therapy began revealing patterns she hadn’t recognized before. Moving out on her own challenged her to discover who Denise was without everyone else around her. Then motherhood—and recovering from a C-section after having twins—confronted her with another identity shift: learning that strength can also mean stopping, healing, and asking for support.

Together, Denise and Desi explore what happens when high-capacity women become so accustomed to performing, producing, caregiving, and achieving that they lose connection with themselves.

Sometimes what looks like procrastination, perfectionism, inconsistency, or lack of motivation isn’t the real problem. It may be the visible expression of something deeper—a protective pattern, an old belief, or a story that once served a purpose but no longer fits the life you’re building.

Denise shares how naming those stories can begin rebuilding self-trust. Rather than shaming the version of yourself that learned to survive, you can understand why that version existed, take the lessons with you, grieve what needs to be grieved, and choose what comes next.

This conversation also reaches beyond personal growth. The relationship you build with yourself influences how you mother, lead, communicate, build a team, and show up in your community. As Denise says, children are watching. Leaders set the tone. The way we treat ourselves has a ripple effect.

If you’ve been trying harder but still feel exhausted, disconnected, or stuck in familiar patterns, this episode invites you to ask a different question:

What’s the story beneath the strategy?

Listen in and give yourself permission to hear the answer.

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What if the story you’ve been minimizing is exactly the story someone else needs to hear?

In this deeply human conversation, I’m joined by author Melissa Heathers to explore what it means to become visible without abandoning yourself in the process.

Melissa’s own journey into visibility didn’t begin with a desire for a platform. It began with a car accident, a traumatic brain injury, years of vision and rehabilitation therapy, and the difficult realization that healing sometimes asks us to grieve who we were while learning to embrace who we’re becoming.

That experience became part of a much larger spiritual journey—one that led Melissa toward writing, soul alignment, and a belief she now carries into her work with other authors: every story is worth savoring.

We talk about the difference between visibility that asks us to perform and visibility rooted in authenticity and service. Melissa shares why she believes there’s power in allowing our experiences to serve someone else—and why we sometimes need to become a different version of ourselves before we’re ready to tell the story.

We also explore the tension between ego and heart, fear and love, darkness and light. Rather than treating the difficult parts of our lives as something to hide or move beyond as quickly as possible, Melissa offers another perspective: they belong to the human experience, too.

One of the most meaningful threads in our conversation is the idea of coming home to yourself.

Not becoming endlessly positive.

Not pretending you’re completely healed.

Not building an impressive life while quietly disconnecting from who you are.

But learning to hold grief and gratitude, ambition and peace, light and shadow—and becoming honest enough to recognize what your own soul has been asking for.

If you’re carrying a story you haven’t given yourself permission to share yet, Melissa offers a beautiful invitation: give yourself permission sooner. Someone may need what your lived experience has taught you.

Listen in—and remember: your story doesn’t have to be polished or perfect to matter. It simply has to be real.

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What if the clarity you’ve been searching for isn’t found by thinking harder—but by creating enough space to hear what you already know?

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations, Desi Bolin sits down with intuition teacher Atlantis Wolf for a deeply human conversation about trusting your inner compass, creating space before action, and recognizing that transformation often begins when an old identity, relationship, role, or way of living no longer fits.

Atlantis shares the personal experiences that changed the direction of her own life, including losing her mother, navigating divorce and career uncertainty, and eventually making a decision to trust the intuitive guidance she was receiving. For Atlantis, intuition isn’t something reserved for a select few. It’s something we strengthen through practice—much like building a muscle.

Together, Desi and Atlantis explore what Atlantis calls the confident pause: a simple practice of slowing down, regulating the nervous system, turning inward, and listening for the first response before analysis and old patterns take over.

The conversation also explores a powerful season many women experience later in life—the realization that life doesn’t have to continue according to expectations they inherited years ago. Instead of viewing this chapter as a time of contraction, Atlantis sees it as an opportunity to ask a different question: What actually makes me happy?

There’s also an important conversation about change itself. Atlantis describes life as clay that is continually being shaped. We aren’t static. We’re always becoming. The question is whether we’ll consciously participate in that becoming or continue allowing old fears and conditioning to choose for us.

Perhaps the most meaningful reminder is this: clarity doesn’t always require immediate action. Like planting a seed, some things need time to grow before they can be harvested.

If something inside you has been asking for more space, a new direction, or simply your attention, this conversation invites you to become curious about it.

Listen in and discover what might become possible when you pause long enough to hear yourself again.

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There’s a kind of weight we can carry for so long that we stop noticing how heavy it has become.

Grief. Responsibility. Expectations. Loss. The pressure to keep going. The identity of being the strong one. None of it arrives all at once, but over years and decades, it accumulates.

In this deeply human episode of Catalyst Conversations, I’m joined by Jen Rigley, speaker, author, and guide for women in midlife who are ready to rediscover happiness and imagine what might still be possible.

Jen’s perspective comes from lived experience. After navigating profound loss, breast cancer, and years of unprocessed grief, she reached a moment when everything she had carried came rushing forward. That experience became part of her own healing journey and eventually shaped the work she now shares with other women.

Together, we explore what Jen calls the “accumulated weight” of midlife—the experiences, responsibilities, relationships, losses, and identities we collect along the way.

We talk about why women can mistake exhaustion for laziness or lack of motivation, what happens when being “the strong one” becomes part of our identity, and why healing isn’t about pretending the past didn’t happen. It’s about learning to relate to it differently.

Jen also shares her simple three-minute Daily Joy Practice built around stillness, gratitude, and intention. Instead of beginning the day with another to-do list, she invites us to consider our to-be list: How do I want to show up today?

Perhaps most importantly, this conversation doesn’t ask you to transform your life overnight.

It asks you to consider a possibility.

What if the experiences that shaped you don’t have to define everything that comes next?

If you’ve been wondering who you are beyond the roles you’ve held, the responsibilities you’ve carried, or the chapters you’ve survived, I hope you’ll join us for this conversation—and consider what part of your story you may be ready to rewrite.

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What if the next level of your business doesn’t require you to push harder—but to create the internal capacity to hold what you’re asking for?

In this episode of Catalyst Conversations, Desi Bolin sits down with Rachelle Nelson for a deeply human conversation about nervous system awareness, emotional patterns, visibility, success, and what it means to grow without constantly overriding yourself.

Rachelle’s work was shaped by lived experience. After years of overworking, a frightening accident involving her husband became part of a season that brought her face-to-face with profound exhaustion and burnout. That experience changed the questions she was asking. Instead of only focusing on what she needed to do differently, she began paying attention to what her body might be communicating.

That distinction runs throughout this conversation.

Rachelle and Desi explore what happens when conscious beliefs and deeper patterns don’t seem to agree. You may genuinely want greater visibility, more income, stronger boundaries, or a bigger role—but still find yourself pulling back, overthinking, pushing too hard, people-pleasing, or freezing when it’s time to move.

Rachelle shares how she sees fight, flight, freeze, functional freeze, and fawn responses appearing in everyday business decisions, from avoiding potential clients to struggling with visibility or being afraid to raise your prices. The invitation isn’t to judge those responses. It’s to become curious about them.

They also explore an important distinction between temporarily regulating yourself and doing the deeper work of retraining long-held patterns. For Rachelle, sustainable growth isn’t about forcing yourself through resistance. It’s about creating enough internal safety to expand.

Perhaps one of the most meaningful ideas in this conversation is that growth has seasons. Sometimes you need to hold a new level long enough for it to become familiar before reaching for another one. As Rachelle puts it, sometimes you have to slow down to speed up.

Because when your capacity changes, your leadership changes too.

If you’ve been doing all the “right” things and still feel yourself resisting the growth you say you want, this conversation offers another place to look.

Listen, get curious, and ask yourself: What is my body holding that may be ready to be released?

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