Back with another insightful episode of the Been There Felt That Podcast!

Your space for real conversations about personal growth, self-awareness, and intentional living.

In this episode, I sit down with my guest to unpack the harsh realities of self-improvement and growth. If you’ve ever felt weighed down by expectations, questioned whether you are who you want to be, even challenged with trying to balance life out or struggling with staying consistent through challenges, this conversation will offer perspective, clarity, and actionable insights.

We explore topics such as: the difference between pursuing growth as a pressure versus as freedom, how to balance striving for more with accepting who you are now, and why true progress sometimes requires doing less instead of more. We also dive into handling life's heavy moments, staying committed when support fades, understanding confidence and fear, simplifying decisions instead of overcomplicating them, prioritizing what really matters, and why self-improvement must come from the right place to create meaningful change.

My guest also shares his journey through the world renowned 75 Day Hard Challenge, his experiences with discipline and resilience, his inner reflection that was a turning point in his life and how he began understanding finance and building a business. We discuss practical lessons on honoring your promises to yourself and building trust with yourself.

Whether you’re seeking clarity in who you are or wanting to live more intentionally, this episode is packed with authentic, actionable insights for growth that begins from within.

We've all been there, we've all felt that, and now I’m sharing it with you!

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0:00 Intro

2:01 Welile's Journey

3:45 75 Day Hard Experience

6:20 The Turning Point For Change & Growth

11:40 Is Self-Improvement Pressure Or Freedom?

14:29 Balancing Drive With Self-Acceptance

17:05 Growth Isn’t Just Doing More, It’s Doing Less

19:35 Showing Up When Life Feels Heavy

21:30 Why Support Fades And Success Gets Questioned

26:52 If You Can’t Be Happy Without It, You Won’t Be Happy With It

29:48 Confidence & Fear Both Require Faith

31:59 Overcomplicating Simple Decisions

34:12 We Avoid What Is Important By Excelling In What Isn't

38:01 Difference In What Feels Good & What Is Good

40:18 Inspiration: Stop Waiting For It

44:32 Self-Improvement: For The Right Vs Wrong Reasons

47:58 People’s Boos Mean Nothing When You See What Makes Them Cheer

51:43 Why We Wait For Pain To Create Change

53:28 Understanding Finance & Starting A Business

58:42 No One Wastes Time When They Have Important Sh*t To Do

1:04:10 Honoring Promises & Building Trust With Yourself

1:07:00 Life Advice For Change & Consistency

1:13:09 Closing Thoughts & Final Takeaways

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