The famous author Leo Tolstoy once wrote, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”

Parents usually come to see me when their family’s in a time of crisis. When relationships aren’t working out. And when things at home desperately need to change.

Some parents assume that a few months at the Heartlight residential counseling program is all their teen needs to get back on track. But fairly quickly, they realize that change is a two way street, and parents have just as much work to do as their teens.

Mom, Dad, do you wish things were a little different at your house? Before you try to change the world, before you begin to shake down your child, think of how to change yourself.

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