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In this episode of the Changeology podcast, I’m walking you through one of the most persistent—and insidious—roadblocks I see in my work with women navigating big life or career changes: the SHOULDs.
These aren’t just annoying expectations or to-do list items. They’re internalized stories that dictate how we think, behave, and make decisions—without our conscious consent. In this solo episode, I unpack what Shoulds really are, where they come from, and why they hold so much power over us. I also walk you through a three-step coaching exercise to help you identify, explore, and reclaim your authority over the SHOULDs running your life on autopilot.
Whether you’re stuck in a job that no longer fits, people-pleasing your way through burnout, or second-guessing every decision you make as a parent, this episode offers both insight and action steps to help you start clearing the weeds.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🌟 Why “I should…” statements are often a sign of unconscious programming, not actual values
🌟 The three types of SHOULDs—and how they quietly influence your choices
🌟 How to identify the weeds in your mental garden (and what it takes to clear them out)
🌟 A journaling-based coaching exercise to help you keep the shoulds that serve you—and ditch the ones that don’t
If you want support dismantling the stories that no longer serve you—and designing a life that actually does—check the show notes for info about working together 1:1.
There's a reason the change you want hasn't happened yet.
This free, 5-minute Personal Change Pattern Assessment helps you identify the psychological pattern behind why.
Want to work together?
The REAL Change Kickstart is a 45-day 1:1 coaching intensive designed to help you:
- Identify the behaviors keeping you stuck
- Unlearn what is no longer serving you
- Create new patterns that align with what you truly want
Click here to get started.
Interested in longer-term support for making a significant change? Send me a message at [email protected] to get started.
Want to learn more about the art, science, philosophy, and psychology of making significant life changes? Sign up HERE for my weekly newsletter and have the Changeology podcast delivered straight into your inbox!
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By Meg Trucano, Ph.D.Send us a text
In this episode of the Changeology podcast, I’m walking you through one of the most persistent—and insidious—roadblocks I see in my work with women navigating big life or career changes: the SHOULDs.
These aren’t just annoying expectations or to-do list items. They’re internalized stories that dictate how we think, behave, and make decisions—without our conscious consent. In this solo episode, I unpack what Shoulds really are, where they come from, and why they hold so much power over us. I also walk you through a three-step coaching exercise to help you identify, explore, and reclaim your authority over the SHOULDs running your life on autopilot.
Whether you’re stuck in a job that no longer fits, people-pleasing your way through burnout, or second-guessing every decision you make as a parent, this episode offers both insight and action steps to help you start clearing the weeds.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🌟 Why “I should…” statements are often a sign of unconscious programming, not actual values
🌟 The three types of SHOULDs—and how they quietly influence your choices
🌟 How to identify the weeds in your mental garden (and what it takes to clear them out)
🌟 A journaling-based coaching exercise to help you keep the shoulds that serve you—and ditch the ones that don’t
If you want support dismantling the stories that no longer serve you—and designing a life that actually does—check the show notes for info about working together 1:1.
There's a reason the change you want hasn't happened yet.
This free, 5-minute Personal Change Pattern Assessment helps you identify the psychological pattern behind why.
Want to work together?
The REAL Change Kickstart is a 45-day 1:1 coaching intensive designed to help you:
- Identify the behaviors keeping you stuck
- Unlearn what is no longer serving you
- Create new patterns that align with what you truly want
Click here to get started.
Interested in longer-term support for making a significant change? Send me a message at [email protected] to get started.
Want to learn more about the art, science, philosophy, and psychology of making significant life changes? Sign up HERE for my weekly newsletter and have the Changeology podcast delivered straight into your inbox!
Connect with Meg:
Website