The duty of a wife is to submit to the husband.The husband's duty is to love the wife.The bible in Ephesians 5:22 starts with wife submitting followed by a husband loving in Ephesians 5:25.It is easy for a wife to submit when she is showered with love.However God's protocol is wife submit first.It seems difficult but once you understand that you are doing it for God, you will enjoy His blessings.