In this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper, we explore the intersection of media stereotypes and BDSM. Every day, we are bombarded with images of what it means to be a "normal" person, or what is considered socially acceptable. But what happens when you don't fit into these stereotypes? How do you express yourself and your sexuality without being judged? In this episode, we'll take a look at how media stereotypes can affect our understanding of BDSM, and how we can challenge these stereotypes and create a more inclusive culture for all.

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Sadly there are many misconceptions, assumptions, and stereotypes about BDSM, and at some point, in our journey in the lifestyle, we will come in contact with them. So in this episode, the conversation will revolve around the most “popular” assumptions floating about in the vanilla world about the lifestyle as well as roles. While some of the stereotypes are good for a giggle, we must understand them so we can create a more inclusive and understanding environment for everyone, not just those in the BDSM community. So, join in as the conversation delves into misconceptions about the lifestyle and confronting those stereotypes that exist.

The United States has some zany laws when it comes, or should it be cums, to sex. Curious as to what states allow women to have sex with live fish but not men perhaps the places that limit the number of dildos you can own or maybe where flirting is against the law? Well, this episode covers all those fun legalities while also talking about the serious side of the lifestyle and legalities. So pull up a chair while making sure the amount of sex toys you own is within the legal limits and enjoy the conversation about zany sex laws as well as legitimate lifestyle law matters.

After seeing a slew of posts revolving around the concept that there is only one correct path in the lifestyle, it is time for a conversation about twue way mythology in the lifestyle. "Twue way" is a subjective concept and there is no single answer to this question. D/s relationships are highly personalized, and what constitutes a twue or true way will depend on the individual needs and desires of the people involved. Ultimately, it is up to each individual to decide what works best for them.

It can be very challenging to have conversations about “isms” but within the lifestyle, there are two that occur far more often than any of us would like to admit. One of the lessons that Ferris Bueller shared was that “Isms in my opinion are not good”. While there are no days off involved in this recording, let’s have a conversation about the lifestyle and “isms”.

One of the most well-known sayings about advertising is “sex sells”. This is certainly the case in the D/S lifestyle as many lifestyle sites use sexual imagery as click bait and then some share sensual photos to gain likes which is designed to gain followers which then will bring profit, so it can feel that those seeking more than kinky coitus, those wanting substance over sexuality can be left wanting. So in this episode, we will get it on and chat about the quest to connect with those who seek something deeper from the lifestyle.

Within the D/S lifestyle there are many conversations, writings, blog posts, and so on about red flags, warnings, and things to be on the lookout for as these discussions are critically important but sometimes we can lose sight of what is good or those gorgeous green flags because we hyper-focus on what to watch out for. So this week the conversation is going to talk about all the great green flags D/S brings as well as lifestyle partners. So buckle up, it’s going to be a great go of goodness and going green in 3, 2, 1…

Everyone’s path to and in the lifestyle is unique but digging deeper, there are some amazing similarities in circumstances that brings people to explore and grow in D/S. While it is natural to feel a bit solitary as we start walking in the world of D/S, discovering that while our paths are unique, many commonalities link us, so this week’s conversation will flow around these common denominators that continue to bring amazing people into the lifestyle.

When we are newer to anything from being the new person at work to being less experienced in the lifestyle, we often allow our inexperience to be the reason we do not ask questions or present our perspective. It is easy to say in our mind that because one is new it is best to stay quiet and think our thoughts silently. In the world of D/S, experience shows that people who enter the lifestyle often join with fresh outlooks that need to be shared and this week the conversation revolves around the importance of sharing new and divergent viewpoints within the lifestyle.

Have you ever wondered how the lifestyle came to be? Where did all these kinks come from? Did they all just appear and grow out of conversations on the internet?

This week, we will chat about the history of the lifestyle, and unlike history classes in your past, this is not going to put you to sleep. So let’s hop into our time machines and discover a bit of the history behind D/S.