notes on men who gave me the ick, exorcising shame that was never mine to carry, overcoming addiction, and deciding to fetch my f*****g life.

See the references and research papers at the blog version of this pod over at cheri-wolf.com and DM me with you thoughts on IG at @cheri_wolf_ –– thank you for listening! <3

So you thought you had a very deep and real connection with this guy. But the vibes changed. Something feels off. Maybe he’s not treating you like he did, the love bombing has drawn to a close. Maybe he’s run out of stamina for the chase.

Or maybe he’s straight up done something catastrophic, like lie to you and then gaslight you about it. Now you are left reeling: Does he like me still? What are we? What did I do wrong? Was what we had real or am I crazy? Did he really do me dirty or am I asking for too much? Am I too much? How do I fix this? Should I walk away? I think I should walk away but I feel like if he gives me a scrap of attention I’ll go running back? How can I be strong right now?

If this is you, there is a way to get out of your fixation disaster. There is a way for you to stop replaying everything that’s happened between you and picking apart every detail to find some reason for how things got so rocky and some proof that it’s worth fixing. All you have to do is follow these three rules as if your life depends on it.

This podcast is on Apple & Spotify. Thank you for listening & I hope it helps! I BELIEVE IN YOU :) xo

To read the blog post version of this complete with references and some full-length readings, go to cheri-wolf.com

To read the blog post version of this complete with references and some full-length readings, go to cheri-wolf.com