In this episode, Kate and Josh unpack self sabotage in a way that actually makes sense. They break down why self sabotage isn’t laziness or lack of willpower, why it often shows up the moment progress begins, and how negative self talk, “I’ll try,” and blaming outside stressors quietly set the stage for quitting. They talk about the shame spiral, all or nothing thinking, and how comparing results or expecting perfection can make people disengage from the gym or ghost a challenge. The key takeaway is simple and powerful: name what you’re afraid of, share it with someone, and stay connected, because isolation fuels self sabotage and connection breaks it.