As you get to know your spouse, you learn so many things about him or her. While learning new things can be funny, some situations can lead to tension. John, Erin and Greg discuss why loving your spouse is still a decision, even if you don't feel like doing it. Featuring Mrs. Melanie Shankle.

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Choosing Love, Even When You Don't Feel It

If you’re married — or soon to be — you’ve got questions. What makes this relationship work? How do I fix it when it breaks? Where do I go when I need help? Host John Fuller and marriage experts Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley help answer those questions with practical, down-to-earth insights based on God’s design for marriage. Find answers and inspiration in every short episode of this Christian marriage podcast.

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Past sexual abuse can be one of the most difficult things to discuss with your spouse. John, Erin and Greg provide hope to people who've been sexually abused. Plus, Jim Daly speaks to Dr. Michael Sytsma about how you can be a source of healing, if your spouse has experienced past sexual trauma.
 
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Hope Restored
 
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Sexual Trauma and Its Effect on Marriage
 
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If Your Spouse Has Experienced Sexual Abuse

Unrealistic expectations going into marriage will lead to disappointment. That principle also applies to sex. John, Erin and Greg discuss how unhealthy expectations is something many couples struggle with. You'll also hear Jim Daly talk with Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma about loving your spouse, even when sex isn't going perfectly.
 
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5 Things Experts Wish You Knew About Healthy Sex in Marriage
 
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Getting Rid of Unrealistic Sexual Expectations

How do you remain thankful for your mate, even when you notice their flaws? John and the Smalley's share some ideas for seeing the best aspects of your spouse. Plus, Matt and Lisa Jacobson talk with Jim Daly about how God's love for us compels us to better love our mate.
 
 
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Four Ways Couples Can Wake Up from Feeling Stuck in Marriage
 
Believing the Best About Your Spouse 
 
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Choosing to Be Thankful for Your Mate

What can you do when your spouse isn't showing the spiritual maturity you'd hoped for? Jim Daly talks with Matt and Lisa Jacobson about why it's best to focus on your own walk with God. Also, John asks Greg and Erin about how you can practically stay focused on the Lord.
 
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Improve Your Marriage Through Thankfulness
 
Spiritual Unity: How I Built Trust in My Marriage 
 
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Owning Your Faith, Even When Your Spouse Doesn’t Own Theirs

What do you find romantic? John, Erin, and Greg share examples of what's romantic to them. Plus, Bill and Pam Farrel talk with Jim Daly about simple, yet effective ways you can romance your spouse.
 
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Romance: It's Not Just for Valentine's Day
 
Understanding the Differences Between You and Your Spouse 
 
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Choosing Love, Even When You Don't Feel It

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