About Christina McFadden:
Christina specializes in executive presence, group dynamics, and identifying verbal and nonverbal communication patterns while helping leaders become aware of their impact. Through her 15+ years of experience in leadership and as a facilitator, she has helped multiple leaders and teams develop skills that support rapid growth.
Learn more about Christina and her work at Blue Door Partners.

In this episode of Your Life: The Sequel Podcast, Rick Rochon and Melissa Carlson are with Christina McFadden and will talk about growing the “germ” of change. Christina is an executive coach and facilitator. She works with folks all over the world or companies all over the world who want to make a change. 

How would you talk to someone who is just in that pre-change “I really think it might be good if” 

[3:08] 

According to Christina, some of the things she would help someone think about is what's important? what are your values? And we might do some digging around the understanding. Like what's actually really important to me? And then notice, how aligned am I with that purpose or those values. 

 [7:53] 

 One of the things Christina love to do with folks is do some education around their inner critic or their saboteur so they can start understanding that we actually have multiple voices in our head. 

 [10:01] 

 Our saboteur is usually looking for one of three things; 

1. Safety
2. Dignity
3. Belonging

 How does shame work into change?

 [13:00]
 
 Notice that when that voice shows up, check in with it, is it trying to keep you safe? Is it trying to help you feel like you make sure you belong? Or is it protecting something?
 
 [15:07]
 
 Step one to change is starting to just notice that voice without judgment. The fact that you just saw that voice right now is the first step in having a new relationship with it.

 [18:36]
 
 Celebrate the steps. Celebrate the success.

 [21:46]
 
 The thing is we are our toughest critics. When we let that inner critic, voice come alive and let it drive, it just crushes us because it doesn't want us to change. It wants us to stay where we are at.

 [23:00]
 
 Christina shares that she loves the acronym for fear, which is False Evidence Appearing Real.

 Tactics that are meaningful for people to document their journey

 [25:51]
 
 Think about that bigger goal. It's about making those incremental tiny changes one step at a time. With any changes, you're just going to have to give it a try. You're going to have to know that you're going to fail and your inner critics can be like, you cannot fail. But the thing is that's the only way to change is to actually fail, to actually try things out and figure out what works for you.
 
 [29:22]
 
 When you want to make a change, if you can build a stronger relationship with that part of yourself, change has a different flavor because all of a sudden you're in choice versus just she's a designated driver of all change.
 
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