Clark N Linda Show

Do you have a parent struggling with addiction or betrayal trauma? In this episode we answer questions from a listener who is experiencing this in her own family and although we do not have grown children of our own, because ours are still young, we address her difficult yet thoughtful questions. How can you support both the addicted & the betrayed when they are your parents or in-laws? And how do their struggles affect you as their child?

We pray for you and hope you each have a very Merry Christmas, we know that Christ is the reason for all seasons, and is the reason for our healing and recovery. It's been an amazing year of growth and change, thanks for taking this vulnerable, awkward, healing, oversharing roller coaster of a journey with us, we are excited for 2020 we have some great things in store. 

THINGS DISCUSSED

*A Lost Battle - is described more in the FREE Like Dragons Did They Fight book by Maurice Harker who founded the Men of Moroni Program as well as Life Changing Services. Check them out HERE to learn more and get support. If you are the once betrayed or currently betrayed, you WANT to hear Maurice, he is so validating.

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What is a "Lost Battle?" What does it mean to the addicted? What does it mean to the betrayed? How can we even talk about it? Can we process a lost battle?

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HOMEWORK (1:20:52)

For the addicted: Read through lost battle analysis, even if you haven't lost a battle. (Lost battle analysis can be found in the book linked below)

For the betrayed: Get some self care, maybe a good boxing workout!

*A Lost Battle - is described more in the FREE Like Dragons Did They Fight book by Maurice Harker who founded the Men of Moroni Program as well as Life Changing Services. Check them out HERE to learn more and get support. If you are the once betrayed or currently betrayed, you WANT to hear Maurice, he is so validating.

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5 sisters who were first connected through their experience with betrayal trauma, gather together in person for the first time after almost a year of first meeting through a online support group, to strengthen each other. Sharing your story is so hard, and Linda was hesitant to share her story too, these sisters were part of her very first "group," and she instantly bonded with them and they are now closer than friends, they are sisters. Take notes, as these sisters share what they have learned in their journey through courageously reaching out to others.

We were all connected through the WORTH Program from Life Changing Services. Visit to find your own group: https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/

Please remember we got together on our own, this retreat/gathering/training camp was and is not part of the WORTH program, but was amazingly healing.

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1st Topic: 3:15 - What does isolation look and feel like?

2nd Topic: 13:32 - The Miracle of stepping out of isolation.

3rd Topic: 27:49 How do you gauge who is a safe person to talk to?

4th Topic: 36:05 - How to know what support group you need? 

HOMEWORK

Reach out and get support! Get out of isolation.

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In this episode, Clark and Linda try to help the addicted to overcome Satan’s tactic of getting them to forget who they are and feel worthless. They review scriptures, talks, and even Disney movies that help them remember their divine identity and know they are more than enough. They present homework to help them receive confirmation of their identity directly from Heavenly Father and challenge listeners to try doing daily affirmations as a regular reminder.

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HOMEWORK: (34:21)

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Whether you tell them or not, your kids will sense something is going on. It will affect them even if they don’t say anything. Don’t leave them in the dark. Your family is a team and being vulnerable with those you love makes your connections stronger. In this episode, we talk about why it’s important to share with your kids, how you might want to approach it, and we share what our experience was like, how they reacted, and what we’ve done since to keep our armor strong.

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An important part of recovery and healing is overcoming shame and being vulnerable with those you love most—your family. In this episode, we talk about why it’s important to share with your family, how you might want to approach it, and we share what our experience was like in sharing. 

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Addiction and Betrayal can make us feel inauthentic as we submit to shame and cover up what we’re going through. It causes us to isolate and avoid others. That lack of honesty and vulnerability makes it harder to connect with others and harder to recover and heal. But as we open up and share our story with those we love it helps us connect and be authentic and speeds the process of recovery and healing. Episode 13 is exclusively for our Podcast listeners!

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Both the once addicted and the once betrayed have a story to share. We talk about how it went the first time we shared. You may feel you don't have a safe place to to share, but that is a lie that satan gets into our thoughts and emotions to keep us locked in our fear. We share our thoughts about which groups worked for us, please tell us which groups have worked for you?

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Exclusive Episode for our podcast listeners only, not available on Youtube. A "sex fast" is such an awkward topic to bring up to your spouse if you're not used to having hard and intimate conversations, Linda had no idea Clark would even do it. See how our experience went and if it's right for you.

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We discuss the importance of daily checklists and goals: How the recovering addict can use the action of “checking boxes” out of duty, fear, or obligation can eventually lead from sobriety to real recovery. And how the once betrayed can use simple, everyday actions of to overcome triggers and find healing regardless of their spouse’s actions. 

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