Jim Ellermeyer discusses a concept from Gestalt theory and How to survive emotional quicksand as we try not to fall into the trap of looking at who we are not rather than accepting who we are.

From this episode:

"Gestalt Therapy Verbatim"  by Frederick S. Perls 

http://www.amazon.com/Gestalt-Therapy-Verbatim-Frederick-Perls/dp/0939266164

How to survive quicksand : a guide to uncomfortable feelings http://head-heart-health.com/6773/a-guide-to-uncomfortable-feelings