In any kind of relationship we’re in, there’s always the potential for conflict, especially if it’s one where we’re close and spend a lot of time together. There’s a saying, ‘familiarity breeds contempt,’ and it can often be true. Little habits that we probably wouldn’t notice in someone else begin to irritate us. Differences of opinion can blow up out of proportion. We can become more critical and lose respect for each other. So how should we handle conflicts with those closest to us? 1) Attack the problem instead of each other. 2) Stay calm and avoid raising your voice. 3) Choose the best time to talk about the issue. It doesn’t help if you’re both feeling hungry, tired, or emotional. 4) Respect the other person’s opinion. People see things differently. It can be helpful to repeat what the other person has said but in your own words, to make sure you’ve understood what they’re meaning. 5) Don’t go into it thinking that you have to ‘win’. There’ll be times when you’ll have to compromise. 6) Choose your words carefully. They should come from a heart of love, not from a desire to hurt the other person. The Bible has this wisdom to share: ‘Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up’ (Ephesians 4:29 NIV). ‘Encourage one another’ (1 Thessalonians 5:11 NIV). ‘Forgiving one another’ (Ephesians 4:32 NLT). ‘Pray for each other’ (James 5:16 NIV). ‘Spur one another on towards love and good deeds’ (Hebrews 10:24 NIVUK). ‘Carry each other’s burdens’ (Galatians 6:2 NIV). In short, ‘Give each other more honour than you want for yourselves’ (Romans 12:10 NCV).

What Now?

Are you feeling tension in any of the relationships you’re part of? Today, ask God to show you if there’s anything in your attitude that needs adjusting in order to help smooth out the tension. Pray that you would handle any disagreements from a place love and kindness.