How to know if you are codependent. You focus on other people’s problems and needs in the form of caretaking, controlling, advice giving, and worrying about others.You struggle when things don’t go as planned. You crave predictability, structure, and certainty.

You’re self-critical. You also set unrealistic expectations for yourself and are harsh and critical of your imperfections and mistakes. Your self-criticism is a result of your low self-esteem and the harsh criticism you’ve gotten from others. You feel responsible for everything and everyone, even other people’s happiness. The best way to start healing is to love yourself more. You are taking your power back and moving forward, gradually leaving your abandonment issues behind you. Take your time, this process is extensive, but it’s also worth it.