You Contain Multitudes

Coming Out. I'm Queer!


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I’ve been on a journey of dismantling and reassembling my own understanding of what's most true for me when it comes to my sexuality. I have fallen wonderfully in love and I'm in a queer relationship right now. It has radically shifted my lived experience of how I get to be loved and how someone can be capable of loving me. The labels that feel supportive to me right now are androsexual and demisexual, and I explain how I’m using those terms for myself.

I’ve felt a divide between who I truly am and how I was professionally presenting to the world for a while now. I was confusing the need to niche down with not showing up for LGBTQIA people. I became aware of the volume of what I didn't know, as well as the blind spots of my own privilege.

Through the Queer Competency Course I did with Terra Anderson and conversation with other queer people in my community, I’ve realized that I’ve been intensely connecting gender to sexuality. It’s been such a liberating experience to detach masculine energy from the body that may or may not hold it. Listen in to hear more about how I’ve been exploring my queerness and rewriting limiting narritives I’ve held about sexuality.

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Topics Covered:

  • Reflecting on the ways that the patriarchy punishes men for feeling their emotions
  • What learning about non-monogamy is teaching me about my own window of tolerance and how I value investing energy and relationships
  • Confronting the resistances and discomforts I had in my body that I never realized, like internalized homophobia and transphobia
  • Making sure I'm showing up in sustainable and actionable ways to further liberate LGBTQIA people
  • How I came to the conclusion that I identify as androsexual and demisexual
  • Resources Mentioned:

    • Listen to my interview with Terra Anderson about the Magic of Queerness here!
    • Check out their Queer Competency Course here! They are running a huge Pride Sale this month and you can get the goods for 66% off! Learn more about it here!
    • Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern 
    • Learn More and Connect:

      • Instagram: @theoramoench
      • Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/relationshipdojo
      • Relationship Dojo: truly-chosen.mykajabi.com/relationship-dojo
      • Website: trulychosen.com
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        You Contain MultitudesBy Theora Moench

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