In this episode of Coming Out Late, Robin & Chris discuss the depth and breadth in which attending Coming Out Late Support Groups are of vital importance to us on this journey of coming out later. In this episode, you will learn . . .  

•  Why do support groups matter, and make them feel so safe and supportive?
• Support Groups are where you can share your story and show up as your honest and  vulnerable self;  then,y our deeper purpose begins to emerge.
• Support Groups are non-judgmental spaces where you’ll quickly feel relief from isolation and resilience.  
• Additional benefits from attending support groups are: emotional regulation and resistance; accountability & growth; skill building in real time; 
• The three Coming Out Late Support Groups serve as a weekly or bi-monthly anchor, therefore providing you with ongoing inspiration and hope.
• Support Groups afford you the opportunity to benefit from the shared wisdom, peer support and real life insights from women who are walking the same road.
• In Support Groups your identity is not just accepted - it is affirmed & celebrated.
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: ON HIATUS UNTIL SEPT. 17th

2026 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

Five Retreats are on the 2026 calendar; they are: Queer & Sober, (Dec. 30-January 2, 2026, Northern Mass.); Philadelphia, PA, (February 12-15, ‘26); San Diego, CA, (April 4-9, ‘26); Lake George, NY, June 2026; Traverse City, MI, (Up North Pride, Sept. ‘26). For more details, email Robin:  [email protected].

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast Robin and Chris invite two very special guests, barbers Wallace and Jess. Wallace & Jess are romantic partners, business partners and Owners of Locket Barber Shop in the Olde Kenzo part Philadelphia, PA.

In this episode you will learn . . . 

• How did Jess & Wallace meet? And, how did they get into barbering?
• What has surprised you most about running a business while also being together as a couple?
• Has being queer has helped or hindered their business? 
• What is a queer-affirming haircut? And are there distinguishable nuances between a femme versus masc cut?
• What’s the difference between a Barbershop and a Salon? 
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation.  Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

LOCKET BARBERSHOP:

Owners, Jess & Wallace (@wallacethebarber)

Instagram: @locketbarber  TikTok: @locketbarber

Email: [email protected]

Locket Barbershop, 1733 North Second Street, Philadelphia, PA (Olde Kenzo) 

SUPPORT GROUPS:
MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY:

EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.

8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting

Monday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; Not meeting: Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 122, or Dec. 29. , Dec. 5

No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.

Temporary financial assistance available. Email me.

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP:

Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes

12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting

Wednesday Meeting Dates:  Sept. 17; Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12,; Dec. 3, Dec. 17;
No meetings on: Nov. 26; Dec. 24, or 31.  

No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.

Temporary financial assistance available. Email me.

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: - BEGINNING: SEPT. 23rd

Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes

8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting

Tuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30. 

No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.

Temporary financial assistance available. Email me.

https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

In this episode, Robin introduces a particular topic or theme or idea that she hopes will help us all think a little deeper, feel a little more awakened and possibly even inspire us to act a little differently as we navigate through this journey of life and of coming out.

In this episode you will consider the possibility of ‘impermanence’ and learn . . .

• What is the meaning of ‘impermanence’, and why is it important?
• How does ‘impermanence’ affect us: Emotionally? Socially? Intellectually? Mentally? Spiritually? Physically?
• Does the knowledge of ‘impermanence’ affect our daily lives?
• Does ‘impermanence’ impact our mindfulness and being present in the moment?
• What are the benefits of accepting ‘impermanence’?
• What can happen if we do not accept the idea of ‘impermanence’?
• By embracing ‘impermanence’, we learn acceptance and that ‘change’ is inevitable.
• How does the intersection of ‘impermanence’ and ‘comp-het’, ‘homophobia’, and deep-seeded denial play in our lives and how self-love, self-confidence and self-esteem can be the medicine!
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

COMING OUT LATE SUPPORT GROUPS:

1. MESSY MIDDLE MONDAY: - BACK ON SEPT. 15

EVERY Monday Evening - 75 minutes.

8:00pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting

Monday Meeting Dates: Sept. 15, 22, 29; Oct. 6, 13, 20, 27; Nov. 3, 10, 17; No meeting on Nov. 24; Dec. 1, 8, 15; No meetings on Dec. 22, or Dec. 29. Next Meeting: Jan. 5

No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.

Temporary financial assistance available. Email me and let’s chat.

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

2. THE NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: - BACK ON SEPT. 17

Every OTHER Wednesday - 75 minutes

12:30pm EST / 9:30am PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting

Wednesday Meeting Dates:  Sept. 17; Oct. 1, 15, 29; Nov. 12, No meeting on Nov. 26; Dec. 3, Dec. 17; No meeting on Dec. 24, or 31.  

No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.

Temporary financial assistance available. Email me and let’s chat.

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

3. THE EXPANSIVE SUPPORT GROUP: - BEGINNING ON SEPT. 23rd

Every OTHER Tuesday - 75 minutes

8pm EST / 5pm PST, in Zoom, via Buy Me A Coffee, $10/meeting

Tuesday Meeting Dates: Sept. 23; Oct. 7, Oct. 21; Nov. 4, Nov. 18; Dec. 2, Dec. 16; No meeting Dec. 30. 

No Refunds or Credits given once Registered.

Temporary financial assistance available. Email me and let’s chat.

https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

COMING OUT LATE FB GROUP:

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late at:

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In this Part 2 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin continues her conversation with friend and Lesbian Curiosity Coach, Samantha Fox, to keep talking about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx. 

In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . 

• A very big part of our coming out process IS awakening to our own sexual desires, our sex drive and defining our own sensuality.
• The taboo of self-pleasuring, masterbation and why no one talks about it.
• Objectification: being the object of the male gaze.
• Is our outlook upon men determined by WHEN you came out? Are lifelong lesbians LESS likely to be objectified by men? Are their relationships with men different than women who come out late?
• The different emotional conditioning for men versus women.
• Sex was an obligation they did ‘for’ their husbands; it wasn’t something they liked, enjoyed or even wanted to do.
• What was wrong with me? Feeling ‘broken’ in our hetero relationships and in our marriages.
• Working through the cultural ‘learnings’ and ‘traumas’ to heal our perceived brokenness.
• NONE of us are ‘broken’. We are just deeply buried under layers and layers of cultural, societal, religious conditioning that needs to be undone; but NONE of us are broken.
• Have experiences so that you can “collect the data” about yourself and get to know WHO you are!
• ‘Lesbian Bed Death’ is NOT exclusive to just lesbians - it occurs in ALL unhealthy relationships.
• Get to know your own sex drive and sexual needs and be true to your needs.
• Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Not doing so in your relationships is like taking a tourniquet to your relationship and cutting off the blood supply.
• “Fantasizing” is such a great way to get in touch with what you like.
• Dispelling the Myth: Lifelong lesbians *may* not be better at sex than we are.   
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: [email protected].

In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin invites Samantha Fox back to talk about sex and relationships as it pertains to our ever-growing community of newly-out, not-straight queer folx.

In this episode you will hear Robin and Samantha discuss . . . 

• The coming out late journey is fraught with potholes, messy-middles, and a multitude of emotions. But, what about what happens AFTER you’re through the messy middle - what then?
• Post the messy-middle, we are still faced with dealing with feelings and ‘people’ when we begin to date women. Just because we’re now dating women doesn’t mean we are immune from ‘relationship challenges’ and no longer have to deal with ‘personalities’.
• Peeling back the layers of not only comphet, (compulsory heterosexuality), but also patriarchy, misogyny, and capitalism, to realize that most, if not ALL, of our beliefs and traditions and cultural ‘norms’ need to be reinspected by each of us - least of which is the concept of monogamous relationships; or, that there is just “one person” out-there for us; or that, once in a committed relationship, that it is ‘for life’ - it may not be.
• To be open to the possibility that being in a relationship is an opportunity to learn and grow from within - to heal our wounds and grow. And that once a relationship may have run-its-course, that perhaps it was an experience in our life to purposefully teach us a needed lesson. “Relationships” can, and possibly *should*, be looked upon as a beautiful string of experiences with all different kinds of people.
• How “expectations” are the death to every and all relationships and experiences. Let go of expectations and allow yourself to experience the joy and wonder of that particular moment, and then the next moment, and the next.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: [email protected].

In this episode, Robin reminds us of the significance and importance of us not only hearing other women’s coming out stories, but also telling our own. We grow, we learn and we heal every time we share or hear coming out late stories. Robin reads to us the story of one particular woman who can recall always being attracted to women for as long as she could remember - but knew she had to suppress those thoughts and feelings. (Thank you social norms and comphet!) After being married to a man, and hitting 40-years old, she made a promise to herself that the second half of her life was going to be on her terms. After that inspiring story, Robin also talks about the rate or speed at which you should proceed on your journey of coming out.  And, at the end of this episode, Robin will share with us the responses from a variety of late bloomers, to this statement: “My first kiss with a woman was…”!

In this episode, you will learn…

• How do we find ourselves and live in our truth?
• Going from three kids and 2 marriages to men later - how one woman went from miserable, depressed, angry and anxious to flourishing in life!
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

Please consider supporting my podcast efforts by 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin picks up where she left off in last weeks’ Episode of: “The Catalyst, Part One”, by first reminding us that catalyst relationships can and DO have one of the most significant impacts on us during the early stages of our Coming Out Late journey. While there is a certain amount of mystery and excitement surrounding a catalyst experience, Robin reminds us to proceed with caution, IF we are to proceed at all. Robin also outlines for us several necessary assumptions and considerations to think about, (preferably), before we ever even meet our catalyst. In “The Catalyst, Part Two”, Robin covers what our options are after we’ve met our catalyst, and why it is so important not to lose ourselves in this, or any future relationship(s). Examining the catalyst experience can be a very deep and complex process, and in this episode, Robin only begins to scratch the surface as to why catalyst relationships tend to be so confusing, complex and volatile. Robin also covers a variety of things that need our consideration before considering to act-on the allure of a catalyst.

In this episode, you will learn…

• What purpose does a catalyst serve?
• What assumptions must be considered BEFORE we meet our catalyst?
• Some of the key considerations that can impact an experience with our catalyst.
• The three most common “types” of catalyst experiences.
• How to take personal inventory at all stages of our coming out journey, but especially prior to revealing ourselves to our catalyst?
• The #1 best way to deal with and handle the dreaded catalyst break-up!
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

Catch up by listening last week's Part 1 of: Ep. #192: Coming Out Late - the Catalyst Experience, Part 1. https://www.buzzsprout.com/2114849/episodes/17632873

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In this episode, Robin talks about The Catalyst and shares some insight as to WHAT a catalyst is . . . HOW the catalyst relationship is different from all other future same sex relationships . . . and WHY it’s important to understand your part, your ‘role’ in this very important, very intense first relationship with a woman. ALL women-to-women relationships are important, but there’s to be nothing like our first (catalytic) same sex relationship. There are no “silver bullets” in catalyst relationships, but understanding the nuts ‘n bolts of them, can help soothe the soul if/when our catalyst relationships end. Stay tuned for “The Catalyst: Part Two” next week.

In this episode, you will learn…

• What IS a catalyst in a woman loving woman relationship?
• That “catalysts” are not always a person.
• The significance of the popular quote circulating among Women Loving Women circles: “You’ve never really had your heart broken until you’ve had your heart broken by a woman”.
• Not everyone who comes out (late) has a catalyst.
• What happens when your catalyst relationship starts to go south, and why?
• You can still purchase the recording from the June 25th Women Loving Women (Virtual) Speaker Summit - all about “Relationships”. PayPal or Venmo me $27 (and send me an email so I can email you the recorded file, to [email protected]). My PayPal is: @NovareInternational, and my Venmo is: @Comingoutlater. I need your email address to send it to you.
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In this episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin introduces you to two new friends of hers - Rebecca and Issy, the co-founders of YES!, via an episode of one of their very own podcasts. YES! is a nonprofit educational organization that provides sex-positive, intersectional, consent-based, sexuality education to people of ALL ages. Yes! stands for Your Empowered Sexuality. They offer anti-oppressive and shame-free educational programs using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums - both virtually and in-person. And YES! has their own podcast too, called, What Is Sex?

Robin thought it would be fun for you to listen to one of their podcast episodes appropriately called, “How do you know that you’re gay?”, which originally aired in S2:E4 of What Is Sex?, on October 11, 2020.

In this episode of What Is Sex?, “How do you know that you’re gay?”, you will hear YES! Co-Founders Rebecca and Issy talk about . . .

• The question behind the question, “when do you first remember wondering if you are gay?”
• Did you ever think about women/girls romantically? If so, when?
• Why are feelings for women so different and confusing compared to feelings toward men?
• If I’m not feeling aroused from kissing a woman, am I allowed to still say I’m attracted to women? Is it maybe because I’m kissing straight girls/women?
• Gay Gossip; the Gay Straight Alliance (GSA).
• The CompHet Speaker Summit: the link to purchase your ticket to attend the Speaker Summit Live is posted here, (as well as in these Show Notes below).
• Here’s the link to Register to attend and pay: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/wlw-speaker-summit-3
• If you cannot attend the Speaker Summit Live, not to worry, we got you - you can purchase a recording of the 2+ hour long event by using the email below.
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time and love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

YES!: www.yestoconsent.org

Our expert guests are from YES! - Your Empowered Sexuality - a non-profit organization dedicated to providing intersectional, consent-based, shame-free sexuality education to all people using interactive workshops, social media, and other mediums. Check them out at: www.yourempoweredsexuality.org

In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.”

In this episode you will learn… 

• above all else, you are not alone! What you are thinking and feeling and experiencing is not only common and ‘normal’, but temporary as well.
• ways to dispel some common concerns and ‘arm’ you with some understanding of the coming out process, in order to help ease your overtaxed nervous systems.
• that we all share similar feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, confusion, self-loathing, and a deep, deep visceral fear of the unknown at various points along our coming out transformation.
• there is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to approach our coming out; there is no ‘right way’ to confront and resolve the relationships affected by our coming out. In fact, in many cases, we choose not to even act-on our awareness of our awakened queer identities - that for some - simply acknowledging that side of ourselves and possibly sharing that knowledge with a loved one is ‘enough’. 
• fifty to one-hundred women, a WEEK, are requesting to join our ‘Coming Out Late’ FB Group.
• Worry is another form of fear. Worrying is a waste of our energy and a misuse of our imagination. “Worrying” is like praying for something that you don’t want. (What we focus on grows). Worry is also just a way to attempt to control something we have no control over.
• NO amount of worry is going to change the future - none. So, why worry? And if no amount of worry is going to change the future, then no amount of REGRET will change the past.
• But ANY amount of gratitude that you can muster-up during this phase of our awakening, WILL change the present. Any amount of gratitude WILL change the present. 
• Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to:https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Links to resources:

ONE-on-ONE PRIVATE COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS

There is nothing like the comforting effects of two late bloomers talking about the process and journey of coming out later in life together; especially when one of them is a “been there, done that” Coming Out Late in Life Coach. Robin is now offering private one-on-one coaching for men and women who are in need of some support, compassionate conversations, guidance and accountability during this confusing time in our lives. For more information about her coaching services reach out to Robin at: [email protected].