In this episode, Robin shares different responses of people reflecting on the past year and the power of embracing the changes you experience!

In this episode, you will learn about…

• Exciting updates about the upcoming year for the Coming Out Late Community in Facebook.
•  Finding the light at the end of the tunnel if you’re in the messy middle.
•  Reflecting on the most significant difference in your life from this time last year.
•  How Robin is changing her language to reflect her current journey of launching a small service business?
• Remembering it’s better late than never because it’s never too late.
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]), (more locations will continue to be added). 

-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025

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-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025

SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at [email protected] and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

HERE ARE SOME THINGS I LEARNED:

1. I learned to take as much time as I need when making a decision, (like choosing my word for the year), that greatly impacts my self-esteem, my serenity and my self-compassion.
2. I learned to pay attention throughout my day, to WHAT messages my body is whispering, (and sometimes screaming), to me; AND pay attention to how my disposition is showing up - and HONOR & ACKNOWLEDGE those messages & feelings. Don’t push those feelings aside - instead use them as clues for how to proceed,
3. I learned that I feel WAY better when I strive to keep my mindset as positive as possible, eliminating negative self-talk and incorporating more compassionate and supportive encouragement to the words I choose to speak -  especially the words that the voice in my head uses.
4. I learned that the words we choose and use really do matter. From where I’m sitting, there’s an enormous difference between DISCIPLINE and INTENTIONALITY.
5. And lastly, I also learned that the temperature of the Atlantic Ocean in January is WAY, way colder than the temperature of the cold water streaming from the shower head in our homes!

In this episode, Robin wishes you a Happy Queer Year and invites us to ponder what WE want our own new year to look like for 2025.

In this episode, you will discover…

• “What the new year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the new year,” by Vern McLellan.
•  If we bring or allow dysfunction into a relationship or a situation, then that's exactly what we're going to get in return.
•  Exercise your choices that align with the best version of yourself.
•  Take the time and space, (quiet space), to reflect on how you moved through last year and how you want to move forward in the new year.
• What tiny changes can you make in your day to day that can help you move forward toward how you want to feel most of the time.
• How can we help ourselves take more responsibility in what we bring to our new year.
•  Routinely ask yourself, “Is this what I want?” “What do I want in this or any situation?”
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $10 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $10pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

NEW! 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS:

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]), (more locations will continue to be added). 

-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025

Handsome Podcast LIVE Tickets - buy here: www.ryman.com

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-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025

SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at [email protected] and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin shares with us some examples of the types of comments we could possibly and most likely WILL receive as we slowly OR quickly come out to people all around us. Knowing what questions *may* be asked during your coming out process is half the battle - at least that way you can prepare for them, right? 

Robin also shares with us some possible retorts to these questions, and maybe a few retorts that she really wouldn’t advise you saying, but ones SHE would love to have you say in these oftentimes rude, intrusive scenarios. Sometimes ‘knowing’ what to expect when we’re navigating the coming out process IS half the battle!! Hopefully you won’t need ANY of these responses - but be prepared and decide how YOU want to respond should you be asked a personal, intrusive question.

In this episode, you will learn…

• What are some of the common questions we ARE asked when we’re coming out to others - or even if we’re NOT coming out and we’re simply in a social setting among other not-straight women.
• How to handle rude and inappropriate personal questions when faced with “curious” people questioning YOUR sexuality, for you.
• Should you respond? Should you respond snidely? Should you confront their blunt rudeness? It all depends….
• Being prepared and expecting the unexpected is usually a good tactic to take!
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
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• SUPPORT GROUPS:
• MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736
  
  
• THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374
  
  
• NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135
  
  
• 2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!
  To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]), (more locations will continue to be added).
  -NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025
  -KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025
  
  
• SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at [email protected] and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.
  
  
• SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
  
  

In this episode, Robin invites Chris back to chat with her about Dating and relationships - specifically about red flags and deal breakers.

In this episode, you will learn…

• What are red flags? Are red flags different in ‘dating’ scenarios versus relationships?
• What are deal breakers? Are deal breakers different from red flags?
• Why are red flags and deal breakers important?
• What are examples of red flags and deal breakers?
• What holds us back from honoring our red flags and deal breakers?
• “The red flags you ignore in the beginning will be the reason why you’ll be unhappy in the relationship. It will also be the reason why it ends.”
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]), (more locations will continue to be added). 

-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025

-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025

SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at [email protected] and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In this episode, Robin invites Chris back to chat with her about the “C”-word - compassion! Discover why compassion practices are so important, how we can do them virtually anywhere, and why do we need them?

In this episode, you will learn…

• What compassion is and how is it different from empathy?
• Why is compassion important and how is compassion related to our coming out late process?
• What does ‘doing the work’ mean? Some examples of ‘doing the work’ are: seeking support, self inquiry, getting quiet and listening inwardly.
• The importance-, and examples-of, Compassion Practices.
• The mental, physical and emotional benefits from practicing compassion..
• To believe, in this moment, that we are exactly where we are supposed to be.
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]), (more locations will continue to be added). 

-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025

-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025

SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at [email protected] and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

In today’s episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin discusses the topics of fear and confusion as they relate to the coming out late process. Robin explains, “...fear and confusion have been pervasively popping-up in a variety of forums where people gather for support and conversation regarding their coming out late journey’s. We need to have open and honest conversations about the common fears we experience and the mind-blowing confusion we’re hit with when coming out later in life.”

In this episode you will learn… 

• You are not alone! What you are thinking, feeling and experiencing is not only common and ‘normal’, but temporary as well.
• How to ease your over-taxed nervous system.
• We all share similar feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, confusion, guilt, and a deep visceral fear of the unknown during our coming out late process.
• There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to approach our coming out or to confront & resolve the relationships affected by our coming out.
• Worry is another form of fear; it's a waste of our energy and a misuse of our imagination. “Worrying” is like manifesting what you don’t want. (What we focus on grows). Worry is also just a way to attempt to control something we have no control over.
• NO amount of worry is going to change the future - none. And if no amount of worry is going to change the future, then no amount of REGRET will change the past.
• Any amount of gratitude you can muster-up, WILL change the present. 
• Please support our “Coming Out Late” podcast and buy Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]); more locations will continue to be added. 

-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025

-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025

SMALL GROUP COACHING: Struggling to make sense-of and manage your Coming Out Late journey? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers who will tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at [email protected] to learn more.

JOIN OUR FACEBOOK GROUP:
Here's the link: www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ 

Robin responds to comments, questions and topics from different social media outlets that address coming out late; and she shares her personal perspective about common issues.

In this episode, you will learn…

• You win some, you lose some—acknowledging relationships may change after coming out.
• Remember—it’s not about sexuality, it’s about toxicity and toxic people don’t need to be in your life.
• Girlfriends?—understanding how women loving women relationships operate and establishing clarity.
• The Big Freeze—”gay panic” and why we get nervous when we like someone.
• Flirting—knowing what crosses the line and communicating with your partner.
• Mutual respect and mutual love is always important.
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

LINKS to RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]), (more locations will continue to be added). 

-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025

-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025

SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS: Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Be one of 6 late bloomers where we’ll tackle some of your biggest struggles in 60-minutes, for 6 weeks in a newly launched Small Group Coaching Program starting in January 2025. Email me at [email protected] and request my Small Group Coaching Information Sheet.

The holidays are upon us and we have only been ‘out’ for a short while; or maybe we haven’t quite come out to everyone yet; or maybe our soon-to-be-ex ‘outed’ you to his entire family. In this episode Robin and Chris talk about the upcoming holidays and how we plan ahead, prepare for and protect ourselves from some seriously uncomfortable holiday experiences.

• Keys to successful holidays: transparency, openness and honest communication.
• Use a lifeline if you need one, and have an exit plan
• Be ready for provocative questions by having a few pre-prepared responses.
• Develop a self-care practice/routine, (e.g., nourish all your senses
• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass
• If you want more conversations around navigating the holidays when you’ve come out late, check out the previous “Coming Out Late” Episode #115.

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

2025 COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: NEWLY ADDED!

To be put on the email list for any/all of these retreats, email Robin at:, ([email protected]), (more locations will continue to be added). 

-NASHVILLE, TN - April 4, 5, 6 & 7, 2025

-KENNEBUNK, ME - June 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 2025

PRIVATE & SMALL GROUP COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? I really do ‘get you’ and have been through it too. Email me at [email protected] and request my 1:1 OR Small Group Coaching Info Sheet.

In this episode Robin shares with you a ‘coming out late’ story submitted by one of her podcast listeners. Now 60-years young, this former Evangelical preacher shares their coming out late journey in her own words.  

• Wanna support your “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

RESOURCES:

SUPPORT GROUPS:

MESSY MIDDLE MONDAYS: EVERY Monday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5 pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/165736

THE GENDER EXPANSIVE EDITION: EVERY Tuesday, 75 mins; 8pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://buymeacoffee.com/robindouglass/e/253374

NOT-STRAIGHT SUPPORT GROUP: EVERY Wednesday, 75 mins; 12:30pm EST, Zoom, $5pp each week via Buy Me A Coffee. Register each week using this link: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass/e/93135

COMING OUT LATE RETREATS: The 2024 Coming Out Late Retreat season wrapped up with 3 nights and 4 days of gay fun and deep conversations in Traverse City, MI. Keep an eye and an ear out for when and where we’ll be retreating to in 2025. Thank you to ALL who attended this year! Please Note: Provincetown, MA: CANCELED.

PRIVATE 1:1 COACHING w/ROBIN DOUGLASS Struggling to make sense-of and manage this new aspect of your Coming Out Late life? It really does make a BIG difference to have someone like myself who ‘gets you’ and who has been through it. Email me at [email protected] and request my 1:1 Coaching Info Sheet.

SUPPORT ROBIN’S PODCAST: Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation. Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

JOIN the COMING OUT LATE FACEBOOK GROUP: If you are AFAB, a transwoman, nonbinary, lesbian, androgynous, bi-, pan-, and have recently, or ARE coming out late in life - join us in my private facebook group, “Coming Out Late”. Here’s the link:  www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ .