New Year’s resolutions fail not because people lack discipline, but because short-term goals reward motivation instead of structure.

In this episode, we break down why annual goal-setting rarely leads to meaningful change and offer a more durable approach: long-range thinking, five-year planning, and deliberate skill development. We discuss how revisiting a long-term plan quarterly leads to clearer decisions, better priorities, and progress that compounds over time.

We also explore why committing to learning one meaningful skill each year keeps professionals adaptable, relevant, and better positioned for leadership as their careers evolve. This episode is about moving past performative goal-setting and building systems that support real, lasting growth.

“Be yourself.” We’ve all heard it, and most of us have said it. But let’s be honest: it’s vague, unhelpful, and often a cop-out masquerading as support. In this episode, we break down why this popular phrase fails the people who need real guidance and why it can actively stunt growth when someone is asking for clarity or confidence.

We share personal stories of receiving this advice, the moments we’ve unintentionally given it, and what was actually needed in those situations. Then we get practical:

• How to replace “be yourself” with coaching that actually moves someone forward

• How to ask clarifying questions that surface real strengths and blind spots

• How to push past generic encouragement and give feedback people can use tomorrow

• What to do when you are the one hearing “just be yourself” before a big moment

If you want to support people with more intention, or you’re tired of getting vague advice when you need something actionable, this episode gives you the tools and language to do better.

Forget the gimmicks and get real about resumes. Allie breaks down common resume myths and shares insider tips from 17+ years of coaching professionals through interviews, career pivots, and job searches. Learn why starting from scratch is better than using a generic template, how to use AI wisely without losing your voice, and what actually catches a recruiter’s eye in those first 6 seconds. Whether you’re re-entering the job market or just giving your resume a tune-up, this episode will help you hit refresh with confidence—and a little humor.

This episode takes on a question that gets leaders into trouble more than they admit: should you be friends with the people you supervise? We break down why the answer is almost always no. Not because leaders should be distant or cold, but because friendship blurs the boundaries that make accountability, trust, and fairness possible.

We walk through the real risks leaders face when they try to be “one of the crew,” including favoritism, uneven expectations, compromised decision-making, and the pressure it puts on everyone involved. We also talk about how to build strong, genuine relationships with your team without sliding into friendship territory.

This conversation is direct, honest, and rooted in experience from both inside and outside traditional leadership roles. If you’ve ever struggled to balance connection with authority or wondered where the line really is, this episode will give you a clear, practical framework for navigating it.

Most people agree mentorship matters, but few know how to actually find mentors who work for them. In this episode, Trey and Allie dig into what makes mentorship effective, why it’s so often misunderstood, and how to show up as a mentee who actually grows.

They’ll talk about the biggest mistakes people make when asking for mentorship, how to identify someone who’s the right fit (not just the most successful person you know), and the underrated skill that separates great mentors from mediocre ones: emotional intelligence.

You’ll also learn practical ways to build the relationship, keep it sustainable, and eventually pay it forward. Whether you’re looking for a mentor or ready to become one, this episode will help you make mentorship a meaningful part of your leadership journey.

Leaving a job isn’t always about walking away: sometimes it’s about growing where you are. In this episode of Command the Room Coaching, Trey and Allie share two very different paths around the same question: when is it time to move on, and when is it time to stay?

Trey opens up about moments he considered leaving a long-standing career and what ultimately kept him there, while Allie reflects on her own series of career changes that led her to meaningful work. Together, they unpack the emotional, practical, and leadership lessons behind one of the toughest decisions professionals face.

If you’ve been questioning your next step, this conversation will help you find clarity and remind you that both staying and leaving can be powerful choices when made with purpose.

Most people still approach interviews like exams. They memorize answers, perform confidence, and hope to impress. But modern hiring does not reward perfection; it rewards connection.

In this episode, Trey and Allie explain the new rules of interviewing. Allie shares what hiring managers look for today, how to prepare stories that show your impact, and the small shifts that help you stand out. Trey brings the perspective of someone who has not interviewed in decades and asks the questions that many others are afraid to.

If you are preparing for an interview, leading others through one, or want to learn how to tell your story with confidence, this episode will help you show up with purpose rather than performance.

🎯 You will learn:

• What modern employers really look for in interviews
• The top do’s and don’ts that make or break candidates
• How to use storytelling to show emotional intelligence and fit
• Why curiosity and self-awareness now matter more than credentials

In this short Episode 0, we introduce ourselves and share why we created Command the Room Coaching. You’ll hear a little about our backgrounds, what pushed us to start this work, and what we want this podcast to do for you. It’s less than two minutes, just enough to set the tone and give you a sense of who you’re hearing from before you jump into the real episodes.