Community doesn't come easily and it doesn't come quickly. What meaningful relationship does? The Lord wants to free us from looking at community with a one way street mindset -"do I need community or not?" A big part of God's plan is working love into our hearts so that we realize, not only do I need community, but community needs me. That's not pride, that's reality. That's a big part of love - losing the "how does this benefit me" mindset and adopting an investing in others mindset.