On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – to talk about communication within a marriage, how they communicate with each other and things they do within their communication.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Everything you do is communicating something, whether that’s indifference, frustration, happiness, contentment. A lot of men don’t like to do a lot of talking, they like to be strong and stoic and silent, but even in that it communicates something.
• We have a lot of different ways in which we communicate, just like a lot of other couples. One of my (Justin) favourite ways we communicate is something we do everyday: We set aside time at the end of every day, whether it’s 5 minutes or 30 minutes, whether we have zero tiredness or we’re exhausted. We talk about everything, be those misunderstandings throughout the day, arguments, or to catch up and remind each other that we’re paying attention to each other. It wraps up my day.
• All couples should set a weekly meeting because so often in the midst of a week you can get lost in work, school, kids, family life, so may things. If you don’t have those touch points who’s picking up Sally from soccer on Thursday? Who’s picking up Joey from basketball on Tuesday? If you don’t have those kinds of communications those are very easily things that can get lost in the mix.
• Cresta once told me that she had a problem with the tone and how I said something. I was then quiet for 20-30 minutes, processing it and wondering what tone I’d used. I can be very sharp with my words and it’s taken a lot of work on my part to not be so sharp, because the intent is not there to be sharp and harsh with you, but that’s just how it comes across. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Sometimes Justin takes something I’ve said, goes away and comes back with 5,000 questions, and that makes me know they you’re communicating, you’re taking it in and you’re processing it.’
‘Even though we spend the whole day together it doesn’t mean, in my mind, that there’s not things you haven’t heard. So, I try to bring all of that out and make sure you know everything from that day.’
‘Texting throughout the day reminds me that you’re thinking of me, that you love me, that I’m always on your mind even if you’re focussing on work.’
‘It’s not just the words you say, it’s how it’s said.’

ABOUT THE HOSTS

Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

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