Kindness without assertiveness is not possible, because we have to DO something in order to be kind. And that is what this last part of kindness is about. We need to have COMPASSION on others and help all we can.
Jesus told a parable about compassion after being asked how to go to Heaven. Let’s take a look at it and see KINDNESS in motion.
Jesus on Compassion
And behold, a certain lawyer stood up and tested Him, saying, “Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life?”He said to him, “What is written in the law? What is your reading of it?”So he answered and said, ““You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,’ and ‘your neighbor as yourself.’ ”And He said to him, “You have answered rightly; do this and you will live.”But he, wanting to justify himself, said to Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?”Then Jesus answered and said: “A certain man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among thieves, who stripped him of his clothing, wounded him, and departed, leaving him half dead.Now by chance a certain priest came down that road. And when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.Likewise a Levite, when he arrived at the place, came and looked, and passed by on the other side.But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was. And when he saw him, he had compassion.So he went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine; and he set him on his own animal, brought him to an inn, and took care of him.On the next day, when he departed, he took out two denarii, gave them to the innkeeper, and said to him, “Take care of him; and whatever more you spend, when I come again, I will repay you.’So which of these three do you think was neighbor to him who fell among the thieves?”And he said, “He who showed mercy on him.”Then Jesus said to him, “Go and do likewise.”Luke 10:25-37
Any of us who does not learn to show mercy to others cannot see God.
Kindness is showing mercy, having COMPASSION on others in need.
What It Looks Like
How does this help a marriage and other relationships? Give people a break. Don’t be so hard on them. That’s not to say we should ignore our responsibilities toward them, but we should have some compassion. No one is perfect and never will be perfect while they are on the earth. That includes us. So let’s have some compassion when people are hurting and not demand perfection when they are trying their best.