Conflict Resolution Made Easy: Managaing the Five Destructive Behaviors We All Have with Gabrielle Hartley on Divorce & Beyond #299

This week on Divorce & Beyond, Susan Guthrie, Esq., author and divorce mediator Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. returns to the show to share the secret to getting along. You’ll hear just how easy it truly can be!  

We experience conflict everywhere, including within relationships or at work. Susan Guthrie, Esq., welcomes returning guest Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., to discuss the five common conflict behaviors exhibited during the divorce process.  In this conversation, Gabrielle and Susan help listeners understand what it takes to reframe relationships, work through conflict, and walk away with a greater sense of peace. 

Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator, founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It’s Easier Than You Think,” is available now for pre-order.

Topics and Golden Nuggets include:

The five destructive behaviors we all have that show up in divorce

“Forgiveness of yourself is the most important part of conflict resolution.”

Finding what behavior(s) you are demonstrating is the first step in working to resolve conflict

Getting along with anyone includes the YES Method, Understanding Your Role, and Shelving Heated Conversations.

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About this week's special guests: Gabrielle Hartley

Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It’s Easier Than You Think” will be released this May. She offers a weekly newsletter, The Conflict Code” and hosts The Better Apart Blog and is a frequently quoted media expert in the peaceful divorce realm (The New York Times, Vice, WNYC, Forbes, Psychology Today,etc.) Gabrielle is former court attorney to NYS Supreme Court Judge Jeffrey Sunshine.  

While writing her first book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (HarperCollins2019) she realized that we all need to get along better in all facets of our lives. Gabrielle developed the YES Method based on more than 25 years working as a top divorce lawyer and mediator.

The Secret to Getting Along was recently selected as a Next Big Idea Club must-read and her Tedx Talk on her strategy has been viewed over 62 thousand times.

Gabrielle’s website: www.gabriellehartley.com

Gabrielle on Instagram and Facebook:  @gabriellehartleyesq

Gabrielle’s new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It’s Easier Than You Think”: https://gabriellehartley.com/thesecrettogettingalong/

The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think TEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/gabrielle_hartley_the_secret_to_getting_along_is_easier_than_you_think

Check out Gabrielle’s past appearances on Divorce & Beyond:

Gabrielle Hartley Has the Secret to Helping Us All Get Along Better, and It Starts with Y.E.S.

Is Your Divorce Taking Too Long? BLITZ IT and BE DONE with Gabrielle Hartley

The Best Thing to Happen to Divorce in Ages with Very Special Guest Gabrielle Hartley

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