How do you see conflict? Is it an emotional beating to be avoided at all costs? Or maybe an obstacle to be overcome quickly and with agility?

The manner in which you embrace conflict will determine the outcome in your home. If you dodge conflict, you’ll leave behind unresolved issues and bitterness, and you’ll teach your kids to do the same.

Let me suggest a better approach. Treat conflict as a gate toward something better. When parents attack adversity with the goal of seeing their child’s heart and making peace, they’ll come out the other side having restored the relationship. Isn’t that what we want?

So don’t run, and don’t attempt to win at all costs. Instead, when conflict shows up at your door, embrace it.

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