The ReProgram

Connected Parenting with Jennifer Kolari

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STOP EVERYTHING, EVERYONE...Jennifer Kolari IS ON THE POD TODAYYYY!

The brilliant and generous Canadian therapist, author, speaker and brain/heart behind the Connected Parenting Model is here to teach us about how our brains and bodies work, and to give us so many actionable steps to take to uplevel our ability to dose our children with the protective neurochemicals that bring out the best feelings and learning from all of us.

Probably no therapist has affected me, my parenting, and my career as much as Jennifer Kolari. In her grounded wonderful way, she illuminates SO much we experience in the Target aisle and our precious bodies and provides the most effective and concrete ways for maximum parenting impact and general life sustainability.

In this episode she explains how she came to develop the CALM Technique through working with traumatized youth in Toronto, she explains the core tenants of the CALM Technique, how to become a healthy authority figure, limbic bonding and adrenaline play, how to de-escalate any situation with mirroring and empathy, and how to heal and reparent our inner child in micro moments throughout the day.
Jennifer is this perfect bridge between the old and the new. She is such a visionary and innovator, but she is incredibly grounded and practical. She changed my life and brain years ago, and I am so excited for her to impact yours!

Takeaways

  • Connection is essential for brain development and overall well-being.
  • The Calm Technique focuses on attunement and mirroring to deeply connect with children.
  • Oxytocin, released through connection, promotes learning, reduces stress, and strengthens the immune system.
  • Self-regulation and self-compassion are important for parents to model and practice.
  • Raising self-aware, confident, and love-based human beings is crucial for the future. Mirroring involves connecting with the child through facial expressions, body language, and active listening.
  • The calm technique consists of four steps: see, agenda, listen, and mirror.
  • Setting limits and boundaries is essential for healthy development.
  • Parents need to find a balance between empathy and limit-setting.
  • Repairing and reparenting are important for building self-awareness and regulating emotions. Learning to love and accept all parts of ourselves, including our primal emotions, is essential in parenting.
  • Limbic bonding and oxytocin play a crucial role in building strong parent-child relationships.
  • Practicing mindfulness and engaging in adrenaline play can help regulate emotions and stimulate the frontal lobe.
  • Self-awareness, self-regulation, and self-parenting are important for raising emotionally healthy children.
  • Parenting is a journey of growth and learning, and repairing and connecting with our children is essential.


    • Jennifer Kolari has her own podcast "Connected Parenting," where she doles out 15-20 minutes episodes on various topics to put her knowledge in the hands of parents for free all over the world. Her books, "Connected Parenting" and "You're Ruining My Life! Surviving the Teenage Years with Connected Parenting" are both essential guidebooks for our parenting years.


    She has a therapy practice in Toronto and San Diego, and trains therapists in how to become a Connected Parenting Facilitator. All of her goodness can be found on her website connectedparenting.com
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