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Connecting the Dots

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You can’t connect the dots moving forward – you can only connect them looking backwards. 

During my corporate career, that used to be something I excelled at. Identifying patterns, monitoring their development and tracking where things might lead has always been a strength of mine. 

Yet lately, this has been a struggle. It takes a lot of mental energy and a firm desire for control to try to connect the dots we haven’t reached yet – and leaves little room for wonder, surprise or those little synchronicities of life. 

In our last few episodes, we’ve spoken a lot about the active process of surrendering inner resistance and going where the flow of life takes us. It’s this fiercely personal endeavor that I’ll be exploring today with the help of recent guest and master facilitator, Aaron Kahlow. 


In This Episode

  • (02:51) How do we pay attention to our journey without expecting certain outcomes? 
  • (09:57) Does time matter in spiritual development?
  • (14:09) The gift of self-expression and the danger of numbing out
  • (21:57) Finding balance between living in our truth while acknowledging daily obstacles
  • (25:52) How compartmentalization causes friction
  • (30:21) Why we fear honesty 
  • (34:24) Expectations, blueprints and leaving room for mystery in life – responsibly 
  • (42:04) Where are you on the certainty spectrum? 
  • (47:20) Why men fear our own anger
  • (51:21) “Thank God for our emotions”
  • (56:16) Transcending and balancing the horizontal plane of the mind
  • (1:04:53) Can we really change?


    • Notable Quotes

    • “I’m walking this edge that has excitement, as well as fear. It has a tremendous amount of uncertainty, and there’s also a certain amount of anticipation that’s coming along with it. There’s this part of me that knows, like something magical could be unfolding. And then there’s the other part of me that’s like, ‘You’re going to screw this all up, you have no idea where you’re going. You don’t have a plan for it. It’s not all thought out.’ That’s like the edge I wanna walk and I wanna be able to express from there. I wanna be able to own that place of vulnerability and just be honest with it.” – Luke (24:15)
    • “Our traumas inform so many things, right? That's the problem. We can't unlock those little micro or macro traumas and be clear and true and honest about it. The best thing that's happened to me [is being] honest about my deficiencies, microtraumas and things that are holding me back with my wife. That's where real unfolding happens. We can create and connect together where there's an understanding, there's a level of compassion, the battles end, the guards are down. The more I can keep expressing those things in a way that's tapped into my truth and my emotions, the better it [is]. … And man, there ain't no sex as good as that.” – Aaron (01:02:21)


      • Our Guest

      Aaron Kahlow is an emotional wellbeing advocate, facilitator and leader committed to helping people create more meaningful human connection in our lives through authentic community building, shared learning, healing and personal growth experiences.


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