Conscious Coupling: Are Pre-Nups the Secret to a Happy Marriage? with Leading Attorney, Monica Mazzei on Divorce & Beyond #275

Today on The Divorce & Beyond podcast, host Susan Guthrie, Esq. welcomes leading attorney Monica Mazzei! Together they explore how pre-nuptial agreements can help partners prepare for their marriage and beyond. 

In this episode, Susan Guthrie and her guest, Monica Mazzei focus not on divorce, but instead on marriage and partnerships. They encourage you to think about how a pre-martial agreement can be a collaboration and bring you together, rather than used as a plan for what happens if you part. 

Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high-net-worth clients throughout the litigation process and in mediation.

Topics and Golden Nuggets include: 

Conscious coupling is very different from conscious uncoupling

Why the stigma around having a pre-marital agreement is waning 

Monica shares insights on the ideal time to start the conversation about a prenup

What happens during pre-marital agreement planning 

“Nobody wants to talk about money, divorce, or death. But these are the things you need to talk about.”

Prenups should be a collaborative and transparent process, and agreements should be balanced and fair

In the event of a divorce, prenups lead to less cost, less time, and less stress because you already worked through these issues

“This is your opportunity to ask for what you want while you still like each other. Try doing this ten years from now when you can’t stand each other, it’s a lot harder.”

About this week's special guest: Monica Mazzei

Monica Mazzei is a Certified Family Law Specialist representing clients in the Bay Area, with a concentration in San Francisco and Silicon Valley, as well as Los Angeles. She represents high-net-worth clients throughout the litigation process and in mediation. Monica has been named a California Super Lawyer from 2015-2019 and has been recognized in the international Chambers High Net Worth 2017-2019 guide for Family/Matrimonial Law.

Monica specializes in dissolution actions involving complicated valuation and financial matters, complex community property and support issues, including international issues, and dissolutions involving hedge funds, private equity, venture capital, and privately held businesses. Monica drafts and negotiates cohabitation agreements, and pre-marital and post-marital agreements for her clients.

Monica also mediates pre-marital agreements. As a mediator, Monica helps to identify the thoughts and concerns of both parties in a non-confrontational setting. Mediation helps clients discuss difficult topics which allow Monica to create a financial structure that works for both parties.

Monica takes a modern approach to the practice of family law – addressing various needs for her clients related and unrelated to their family law cases. Monica has relationships with top professionals in the Bay Area such as forensic accountants, mental health professionals, real estate agents, financial advisors, and business valuation experts. She also works closely with estate planning attorneys to come up with creative solutions for her clients and ensure their agreements reflect their current objectives.

Monica is a frequent lecturer and speaker on family law matters and a staunch advocate against domestic abuse in her pro bono work.

Monica Mazzei - Sideman Bancroft, LLP: https://www.sideman.com/professionals/monica-mazzei/

Monica on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/monica-mazzei-5029432/

Email Monica: [email protected]

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