Consent is Not Radical (Part 3): Erotophobia and Bystander Consent

In the third installment of my Consent is Not Radical series, I focus on ways in which radical consent theory reinforces erotophobia by casting sexual acts and expression that occur in public as unethical and harmful when they lack the consent of bystanders who witness it. I talk about why I am opposed to that consent-based standard for judging the ethics and public tolerance of sexual and kinky acts, which is based on a desire to oppose erotophobia and to promote sexual/bodily autonomy. I describe the basics of erotophobia, indecency, and obscenity, as well as how religious ideas about sexuality and purity impact our cultural reaction to public sexuality. At the end, I describe my thoughts about children seeing various forms of kink in public.

This third part of Consent is Not Radical spans two episodes, because there is so much content. So, this is only the first episode. The next one will come out in a couple of weeks.

As always, the thoughts I share in this episode are not set in stone. I am always growing and changing in my opinions, and I am open to critique. I am looking forward to comments, critiques, and questions that this episode raises in listeners. You can share this episode on social media with your own commentary, leave a comment in any of the podcast apps, or email me directly to share thoughts.

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Links/References:

Thinking Sex: Notes for a Radical Theory of the Politics of Sexuality, by Gayle Rubin: https://sites.middlebury.edu/sexandsociety/files/2015/01/Rubin-Thinking-Sex.pdf

Sex and Germs: The Politics of AIDS by Cindy Patton:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1862267.Sex_and_Germs

Radical Consent resources:

https://sherights.com/2015/02/10/why-radical-consent-makes-me-a-better-man/

https://reachma.org/what-is-consent-really-hint-its-way-more-than-just-about-sex/?fbclid=IwAR1HVjLkZlGewK1zujSyxkuAlzRhcboE1X8WJfOv-eDrOkjN887NB6BCey8

https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/conflict-break-up/consensual-relationships/?fbclid=IwAR3UFkMU9UDYtqOSpiruhOm4kHulLbwUiEpBQVKFWdKaqPcKC6A2U923DVE

http://justiceandpeaceconsulting.com/sexuality-education-for-all-bodies/parenting-for-consent-and-healthy-sexuality-workshops/preemptive-radical-consent/

https://theswaddle.com/how-to-ask-for-non-sexual-consent/

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/11/practice-consent-beyond-sex/

Anthony Comstock: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthony_Comstock

Obscenity standards: https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/obscenity

Grocery Store Kink Scene: https://www.ladbible.com/news/weird-photo-of-dominatrix-walking-man-through-supermarket-on-lead-goes-viral-20201019

Kat Blaque video on public kink scenes: https://youtu.be/pnyn7WtD-hw

Kink in Public and Consent: https://lifeofakinkywife.com/consent-and-kink-in-public/

Respectability Politics: https://theundefeated.com/features/respectability-politics-how-a-flawed-conversation-sabotages-black-lives/

https://www.dissentmagazine.org/article/the-rise-of-respectability-politics

Adultism: https://www.youthonboard.org/adultism

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/280102266_Adultism

Intro/Outro Music:

Intermezzo by Patchworker f.k.a. [friendzoned] | https://soundcloud.com/patchworker

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