Arguing with someone is never a fun thing to do, especially when that someone is your teenage son or daughter.

Parents tend to put a lot of effort into keeping peace in their home—rightly so! The problem comes when it comes by simply avoiding conflict. I like to remind parents that addressing conflict can be one of the most effective ways to bring about positive changes in your home. Here are a few tips for engaging in constructive conflict with your teen:

First, make sure your teen knows that you heard out his side of the argument—even if he still needs to follow your rules.

Then, tell your teen that it’s okay not to agree on everything.

Finally, make sure he knows that even though you disagree, you still—and will always—love him.

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