Harnessing the Power of Questions: Improving Your Life Through Focus and Neurochemistry

This episode explores the concept of controlling your focus and shaping your life experience through the quality of questions you ask yourself. We'll discuss the distinction between living and experiencing life, emphasizing the importance of learning from both joys and pains to lead a meaningful and impactful existence. Drawing on principles applicable to various fields like military and entrepreneurship, the episode underscores the need to 'control the controllables'—primarily our own minds. By asking empowering questions, we can influence our outcomes positively. I'll share personal anecdotes and suggest daily reflective questions to form habits that prime the brain for positive momentum and growth, ultimately fostering a deeper and more meaningful relationship with oneself.

Introduction

• This episode offers a tool to radically reshape how you experience your life
• There's a difference between living your life and truly experiencing it
• To have the greatest influence over outcomes, focus on controlling what you can control - your mind

Controlling Your Mind

• Our version of the human experience depends on how we control our minds and where we place our focus
• The quality of our lives is directly tied to the quality of the questions we ask ourselves
• Asking empowering questions allows us to grow, learn, and see experiences as happening for us, not to us
• This inspires us to action and creates positive momentum

The Power of Questions

• The fastest way to get to know someone is by asking them questions
• Similarly, the way to get to know ourselves more deeply is through the quality, depth and frequency of questions we ask ourselves
• The responses we get, whether from others or ourselves, depend on the quality of the questions asked

Daily Questions to Ask Yourself

1. What have I learned today?

• Forces you to realize you've always learned something, even on difficult days
• Helps you take that knowledge and use it for empowerment instead of focusing on the negative

1. What would need to happen for this experience to be positive?

• Inspires you to decisive action - either to improve a situation or move on
• Allows you to frame difficult experiences in a positive light and learn lessons

Internalizing the Habit

• Document your answers to these daily questions, just like taking detailed notes in sales conversations
• Articulating answers helps your brain remember and shows your relationship with yourself is meaningful
• Journaling apps like Day One are great for this
• Getting in this habit will change how you experience the world and help you drive closer to your desired outcomes

Conclusion

• What you focus on tends to materialize
• This habit will help you see the world as full of positivity and blessings
• You'll recognize how powerful, knowledgeable and capable you truly are

00:00 Introduction to Neurochemistry and Life Experience
01:02 Controlling the Controllables
03:32 The Power of Questions
08:43 Building Positive Habits
17:10 Documenting Your Journey
21:55 Conclusion and Call to Action