Warm and fuzzy on the outside and Attila the Hun on the inside.  Everyone knows a person like this but sometimes they are very hard to spot.  Let me tell you about who I am not talking about.  I am not talking about when you get into your emotional Sunday best to try to impress.  When you are on a first date, job interview, meeting your lovers family and friends for the first time.  There is a little pretender in all of us.  No I am talking about the most scary of the Pretenders.