Happy 30th Wedding Anniversary to us! 🎉💍

Thirty years… wow. What a ride it’s been! In today’s special episode, Chad and I sat down to look back on three decades of love, growth, and everything in between. From those nervous first dates to walking down the aisle, from the silly little pet peeves to our favorite things about each other—we covered it all.

And because we wanted to celebrate by giving you something too, we each wrote down 15 marriage tips to share with you. Some match, some don’t (you’ll have to listen to find out which ones!)—but all come straight from the heart.

Whether you’re newly dating, celebrating a milestone, or somewhere in between, we hope this conversation makes you smile, sparks some reflection, and reminds you that lasting love is built in the small moments just as much as the big ones.

✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:

• ​ The story of our first dates (and what we’d change looking back)
• ​ What we’ve learned through 30 years of marriage—the messy, the funny, and the holy
• ​ 15 of Jess’s best tips for building a strong marriage
• ​ 15 of Chad’s best tips (spoiler: they may or may not involve sunsets and the beach 🌅)
• ​ How faith, laughter, and forgiveness have been our anchors through every season

We hope our stories and tips are a blessing to you, no matter where you’re at in your own journey.

Here’s to 30 years behind us… and a lifetime ahead. 🥂

Jess’s 15

1. ​it’s ok to go to bed mad.
2. ​success in marriage is more about becoming the right person than it is finding the right person.
3. ​laugh about the hard things too.

◦if you were overreacting the night before, be willing to laugh about it in the morning.

1. ​hold hands.
2. ​kiss in front of your kids.
3. ​be playful.
4. ​don’t assume — ask.
5. ​pray for your husband without expectation.
6. ​invest in your own healing continuously.
7. ​spend time apart.
8. ​take trips without the kids.
9. ​talk about money.
10. ​appreciate your differences.
11. ​let him use his strengths.
12. ​hold space for each other.

Chad’s 15

1. ​tell your wife she’s beautiful.
2. ​hold hands as often as possible.
3. ​eat dinners together.
4. ​have date nights.
5. ​make meals for your wife.
6. ​pick up each other’s slack.
7. ​recognize when there is slack (see above).
8. ​learn to say “i’m sorry” when you are wrong.
9. ​say “i love you” all the time.
10. ​get groceries together.
11. ​take her to the beach.
12. ​dream big together.
13. ​sit and watch sunsets together.
14. ​do hard things.
15. ​listen.

How to connect with Jessica:

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