Couples counseling is not just “learn better communication and move on.” In this episode, Jessie Evans and Steadfast counselor Tiff Holdgate unpack what’s really happening underneath conflict—attachment styles, nervous system reactivity, old hurts that stack over time, and the “cycle” that can start running your marriage.

You’ll hear practical ways to prepare for couples counseling, how to recognize bids for connection, and why individual healing often becomes part of relational repair (because your body can say “I’m in” while your nervous system still feels unsafe). We also talk through what doesn’t belong in couples work—like active abuse or addiction—because safety and stability come first.

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Helpful resources mentioned:

• “Bids for connection” (Gottman): bids are small attempts to connect and matter more than most couples realize.

• Free attachment style quiz: Attachment Project