In this episode I walk you through the PATCH acronym. Why each piece of it is so healing to practice and use as a consistent way of responding to yourself (and your triggers, feelings, etc.) with love and compassion.

This episode goes deeper into stage 3 aka the energy of devotion. (Listen to episode 28 first if you haven't yet!)

I talk about:

-why stage 3 is really the best of stage 1 and 2, without the depleting parts

-why stage 3 leaves so much space for RECEIVING. When you do your part but also open to receive support from life

-how stage 1 is very "do - have - be" while stage 3 is "be - do - have". Frequency precedes form. Feeling drives what we DO and then eventually what we have. So by continually feeling proud of yourself, you're gonna keep doing good

-examples of stage 3 energy in my life

-ways that I've noticed I slip out of stage 3 and back into stage 1

-checking your fuel source and what to do when you find yourself back in stage 1 or 2

-why being a good parent to yourself is so important. NOT cracking the whip on yourself. More on that next episode :)

I've had a complicated relationship with motivation, productivity and consistency. I'm so used to yoyo-ing between two ways of going about life or working towards goals:

1 - Hustle, grind, action action action. Make to do list upon to do list and check things off until I deplete myself and burn out

2 - Let go, surrender and allow. Remember it's not all on my shoulders. That I'm a spiritual being having a human experience. Allow more acceptance for exactly where I am. Relax more and just float down the river of life

The second option feels like relief from the first until it doesn't. After awhile it ends up feeling too passive and nonintentional. So then I go back to option 1 and taking a LOT of action to hopefully make more actual progress. And whether or not I do make more progress, I end up eventually feeling drained and unsatisfied. So then I go back to option 2 and re-connect to myself and a sense of spirituality, trying to just relax and control less... until I again end up feeling a bit too directionless. And the cycle continues and continues.

This episode is about option 3. Transcending this yoyo pattern between 1 and 2 and finding motivation that's rooted in something other than fear, dissatisfaction, and a desire to change what I don't like about my life now. Rather than cracking the whip on my poor inner child, how can I intrinsically motivate and inspire her? How can I teach her to do things for the sake of being proud of herself and feeling in integrity with who she is.... instead of "you better do this OR ELSE!"

I hope this episode is helpful for anyone who struggles to be motivated and stay motivated. And with taking consistent, steady actions towards goals. I'm still figuring it out but I can already tell my inner child likes the approach of option 3 so much more than 1 and 2.

This episode is about getting laid off, getting a puppy, having no idea what's next in my life and fully surrendering and choosing to trust. Being an "interesting daughter" as my dad says :)

Tosha Silver website and books

Walking you through a simple visualization to cultivate a wave of acceptance for all the different parts of you. I find this practice to be very grounding and soothing. May it find whoever needs it <3

This episode is about surrender. Prioritizing your inner frequency over your outer attachments. How that naturally aligns you with what you value most. And how that alignment puts you on a wavelength where trust, satisfaction and nourishment are abundant.

On escapism, numbing, self-compassion and validating your inner teenager <3

I once briefly dated a guy who told me I was like one of those scared little chihuahuas that's always trembling. A dagger to my heart especially bc I was like.. shit... I definitely kinda relate to that sometimes....

A large part of my experience as a human being so far in this lifetime is wondering if I'm good, trying to be good, scared that I'm bad, trying to avoid being bad, and hence a lot of rigidity, control, fear and neuroticism.

This episode is weird. It's vulnerable, honest, and kind of funny? It's definitely a glimpse inside the inner landscape of someone (me) who grew up with a strong sense of conditional love. Which makes you spend way too much time/energy questioning your worth.

That's why two of my biggest healing anchors are self-compassion and nature. They both hold the essence of unconditional love. When I practice self-compassion or spend time in nature… I always feel like I belong, as I am, no matter what.

What I want more than anything for myself is to feel a high sense of self worth and a knowingness that I'm good enough and deserving of good things. I want that for myself and I want that for everyone. I may have a scared chihuahua in me but first of all she deserves love and 2nd, I'm also so much more complex than that. I've got a goofy basset hound in me too. And a scrappy terrier. A chill couch dog. A loyal Saint Bernard. Lots of good.

This episode details a powerful reframe that I got from Elizabeth Gilbert's Substack last Sunday. I've been using it all week as an anchor and I'm grateful to have it in my toolbox for whatever the heck is next in the wild unfolding of this country/world.

Elizabeth Gilbert's Substack

What if it's all easier than we think? What if we're supposed to be doing less and trying softer rather than trying harder?

In this episode I talk more about the absence of doing all the things I used to do out of fear/anxiety. And how now that I'm not doing them so much, there's space. And the space is uncomfortable. It brings up a lot of unknown. Bc at least when you're doing things that aren't aligned, you know what comes next. It's at least familiar even if it sucks. But when you stop, and you majorly slow down and create space that wasn't there before... at some point, something is gonna come along and fill that space. If you can surrender and trust, and hold out for something more aligned to come in... it will.

Here's what randomly came along for me: resuming my goal to become fluent in Spanish. Something I had given up on a long time ago, but it got reintroduced to me through a method that's genuinely fun and enjoyable. I talk all about it in this episode, continuing to unpack this question of hmm what if we're not supposed to be doing more or trying harder? What if we're just supposed to be doing more of what we actually like, what feels natural or right to us. The path of least resistance, the path of more genuine fun and interest. The path that's hard for some of us to step onto unless we build enough sense of safety/trust/surrender to leave the path that's familiar and worn.

Dreaming Spanish