Emotional healing is very simple but can also be very difficult. It means allowing ourselves to experience our emotions in a supportive non-judgmental environment. When we do that and allow our children the support and space to emotionally heal, negative energy is released and positive messages are instilled.

When we repress our emotions or our childrens, the negative energy is repressed inside our bodies and we instill negative messages about our self-esteem, control and our safety.

Providing a safe space to process/feel emotions means: listening without judgement, repeating what we hear with kindness, validating whatever emotions are coming up: "I understand you are sad/angry/afraid/etc and it makes sense that you feel what you feel." "You don't feel OK but its OK that you don't feel OK and probably won't for a while and that's OK."

When we minimize others feelings ("that's not so bad" "you shouldn't feel so sad" "aren't you over that yet") we miss an opportunity to help someone heal and we keep them stuck.

Unfortunately, most of us aren't very good at processing our own emotions or helping others do the same because most of us didn't grow up with a good model of feeling in a safe space where we could be validated and feel safe feeling our feelings.

In this episode I give specific examples of how to hold a safe space for a child or an adult.

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Blessings on all of us as we work on healing our wounds and work on helping those around us heal theirs.