In opening up recently about my struggles with narcissistic abuse from my father, I’ve been blown away by everyone reaching out with similar stories. Your responses have shown me that this is an area of healing that is deeply needed right now. For way too long, I let shame, guilt, and fear stop me from using my voice and I let my father paint this picture of things being great. But I’m no longer entertaining that - it’s 2021, and we’re talking about our truth, sharing it and being vulnerable. Because that’s how we heal. 

So in this episode, healer and mentor Kate Bandman joins the Conscious Leadership Podcast for a conversation that dives deep into the effects and impact of narcissistic abuse, along with how we can heal from these toxic relationships. Kate and I get into the importances of setting boundaries (without feeling guilt and shame) along with what we can do to start creating an identity that feels empowered, authentic, and aligned with who we truly are. Kate also offers some concrete tips for preparing to set boundaries.

Much of what happens with toxic or narcissistic family and parents is that our identity is shaped around their belief system that they want us to have. Even though it’s so very hard to break, you need to remember that you have so much more power now as an adult. And you owe it to yourself, your ancestors, and your future line to end the cycle.

[1:41] Introduction to Kate Bandman, healer and mentor

[2:06] An update on Gabby’s life situation in her healing from CPTSD, a narcissistic parent, and a hard decision she had to make

[6:15] The effects of narcissistic parents and narcissistic relationships, in childhood and when trying to evolve

[11:38] The effect of narcissism on core beliefs systems

[14:48] Learning to set and maintain boundaries, when we haven’t experienced or learned what healthy boundaries look like

[29:52] Creating a life that centers the safety, peace, happiness you inherently deserve

[35:51] The generational impact of narcissism and working through our own programming

[43:11] Tips from Kate for preparing to set boundaries 

[47:36] Where to find more from Kate

This week’s guest was Kate Bandman! Kate is a healer of many kinds - a mentor, hypnotherapist, and a clinical counselor. She helps women transcend limiting beliefs, anchor into their purpose, and expand their capacity for joy and abundance. Find more from Kate on IG at @elevate.integrate.therapy

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