Families call me all the time and say, “We need help! What do we do to fix our kid?”

You know what my answer is? Well, there’s very little we can do to fix our kid. You gotta turn that notion around. What we’ve got to focus on is fixing ourselves. In the process, we’re allowing God to do something with our child way beyond our own resources.

So let’s make this practical. Is there something in your family you’d like to be different? Maybe a kid that’s disrespecting others or blowin’ off your rules. The problem’s so obvious. And, of course, should result in consequences.

But what’s not quite as obvious, is what God is trying to teach us. Could it be you’ve become part of the problem, instead of part of the solution? Quit trying to “fix” your kid. And you’re your family’s transformation begin with you!

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