SUMMARY

The current chapter of dad life is not the whole story. In part two of the DadAwesome Multipliers summer series, Jeff reads Chapter 2 of the DadAwesome book, The Tale of Two Thieves, and unpacks what a three dozen cookie dough heist taught him about choosing curiosity instead of reactivity. Then Phil Comer joins with a powerful clip on giving a blessing instead of returning evil for evil, and how one choice in a tense room trickles down for generations. This episode closes with clear reflection, multiplication, and activation steps you can take this week.

Key Takeaways

• You are living into a multigenerational story, and this chapter is only a tiny slice of it.
• Curiosity opens doors. Reactivity closes them.
• You cannot eliminate chaos, but you can shape how it unfolds.
• Stones of remembrance are about keeping the stories alive, not preserving the reminders.
• Giving a blessing when you have received a criticism changes the atmosphere of a room.

Action Steps

REFLECTION

Look back at the chaos. When curveballs hit recently, were you reacting or responding? Were you making assumptions or staying curious and asking God what He wanted to teach you in that moment?

Open your phone and look back at the last month. Scroll your photos, scroll your calendar. Where has God shown up that you have not paused long enough to call to mind?

Ask the honest question. If your kids described the atmosphere you carry into the room right now, would tenderness make the list? Would softness? Would kindness?

MULTIPLICATION

Send the text. Reach out to seven or eight dads and invite them to journey with you through the end of August. If two or three say yes, you have moved from addition to multiplication.

Pick your gathering. A text thread, a campfire, a boat, a camping trip with your kids. Make one specific invite this week.

Carry a copy. Keep an extra DadAwesome book in your vehicle or your laptop bag and look for the moment to hand it to a dad and tell him you see him being awesome.

ACTIVATION

Start a family remembrance list. Sit down together, scroll photos and your calendar, and capture the answered prayers, the provision, the goodness, the moments God showed up. Let every kid contribute.

Tell the stories out loud. At the dinner table or at bedtime, tell your kids one story of God's faithfulness in your family.

Flip the switch this week. The next time a curveball comes, choose curiosity first. Laugh at the moment. Show your kids that dad is anchored and steady, not thrown off.

Timestamps

03:00 This week's theme is story 04:00 Chapter 2, The Tale of Two Thieves 06:24 React or respond, curiosity or reactivity 08:49 The Dad Detective's approach, five practices 11:11 Crafting your family's story 12:45 Stones of remembrance 14:30 Building your family's remembrance list 18:21 Remember this 19:20 Setting up the Phil Comer clip 20:20 Phil Comer on tenderness, blessing, and the choices we pass down 26:45 Action steps: reflection, multiplication, activation

Guest

Phil Comer is a husband, father, and grandfather with 40 years of pastoral and counseling experience. After planting a church in 2004, Phil and his wife, Diane, went on to launch Intentional Parents International, a ministry equipping young parents and providing focused teaching in the spiritual training of children. This clip comes from episode 317.

Links Mentioned

• Listen to the full conversation with Phil Comer: DadAwesome Episode 317

• Intentional Parents: intentionalparents.org

• Spartan Team DadAwesome, Dallas, Texas, October 17 https://givebutter.com/DallasSpartan

• DadAwesome 100 Mile Fall Running Challenge - https://givebutter.com/dadawesome100

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Top Five Quotes

1. "The current chapter of dad life is not the whole story."
2. "You can't eliminate chaos, but you can shape how it unfolds."
3. "Your kids are watching how you handle the unexpected. What story are you writing?"
4. "It's not about preserving the physical reminders. It's about keeping the stories alive."
5. Phil Comer: "If you, with God's help, can give a blessing when you've received a criticism or a curse, it brings peace and it honors God."

Tags

DadAwesome, Jeff Zaugg, Phil Comer, DadAwesome Multipliers, fatherhood, christian dad, dad life, parenting, dad podcast, intentional parenting, story, legacy, generational blessing, stones of remembrance, God's faithfulness, curiosity, marriage, tenderness, scripture, Intentional Parents

Welcome to Episode 443 and the kickoff of a brand new seven part summer series: the DADAWESOME MULTIPLIERS. It's a lightweight, campfire ready series built to help you spread the mission of Dad Awesome through the end of August. Each week you'll get a slice of the forthcoming Dad Awesome audiobook, a featured guest voice from the vault, real time multiplication coaching, three practical lab activation steps, and a giveaway.

https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/443

In Part 1, Jeff Zaugg sets the flyover. He reads the book's dedication and preface, tracing how one casual patio question from his cousin in Arizona, "How do you stay intentional as a dad?", exposed that he was pouring growth into every area of life except fatherhood. That single unanswered question sparked a ten week experiment with twenty friends, a first episode filmed at the base of a snowy sledding hill, a name change from DadVentures to DadAwesome, and eventually a movement built on hundreds of small yeses. The episode closes with a two minute clip from Jeff's first ever interview with Mark Batterson, who wrote the forward for the book.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Intentional fatherhood starts with a question, not a program. Staying awake to "How do you stay intentional as a dad?" changed everything.
• The mission runs on two turnings from Malachi 4:6, hearts toward heaven and hearts toward home.
• Read to lead. You don't need 250 books, but read a dozen so you can lead on the home front.
• Your mistakes are one of your greatest teaching tools. Kids learn to apologize by watching you do it.
• Prioritize your children, don't idolize them. Batterson names that as a big difference.
• Batterson learned more about the heart of the Heavenly Father from parenting his three kids than from all his degrees and seminary trips combined.
• Movements are built on small yeses, not one grand gesture.

THIS WEEK'S LABS

• Reflection: Do an intentionality audit. Open your notes app or a journal and honestly assess how you're staying intentional, heart toward heaven and heart toward home. What are you reading and listening to? Does your calendar show fatherhood is an area of real pursuit?
• Multiplication: Be an inviter. Copy paste one text to ten dads inviting them into the seven week challenge through the end of August. Listen each week, then get together to talk about it over coffee, wings, a campfire, a run, a bike ride, or a boat. Get two or more to say yes and you've moved from addition to multiplication.
• Activation: Name your small yes. What yes have you been putting off that God is nudging you toward this week? A dad daughter date, a date with your wife, a follow through you keep intending but haven't done. Pick it and act on it.

GIVEAWAY

Send Jeff a voice message up to 90 seconds using the link in the show notes. Introduce yourself and share what this first episode stirred up, your action step, or a question. Each week one message gets randomly picked to win DadAwesome summer gear.

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Jenga blocks, jiu jitsu mats, and a decade vision for your family. 👊

SUMMARY What if your family values were something your kids could actually touch? In Part 2 of this paddleboard conversation, Tyler Van Eps shares how he turned a Jenga set into a discipleship tool, why physical discomfort opens the door to spiritual growth, and what it takes to build a legacy of courage in your kids. Plus, he unpacks the question God placed on his heart: what is required to be a founding father?

TAKEAWAYS

• You can only control the outcomes so much as a dad, but you can control the inputs. Zoom out to a 90 day view to realign your family direction.
• Purpose, vision, and value language is abstract for kids. Make your family values tangible with tools like Jenga blocks and card decks so your kids can see, touch, and speak them.
• Your family values will stay the same, but the language needs to match the season your kids are in.
• Men grow through moments of physical and spiritual discomfort. Gatherings like Manmaker sneak spiritual vulnerability in the side door.
• Think in decades, not just weeks. Ask yourself what you need to be doing today to have a strong relationship with your kids as adults.
• Your kids will face fear, but you can build a reservoir of courage into their heritage that they can tap into for the rest of their lives.

GUEST

Tyler Van Eps is a husband, father, and intentional family leader passionate about making spiritual formation tangible. He and his wife, Shelly, practice quarterly whole life stewardship reviews and have built family values their kids can see and touch. Tyler is also the creator of Manmaker, a series of high intensity gatherings that challenge men toward biblical manhood through physical and spiritual growth. He and his family live in Minnesota.

#DadAwesome #christiandad #dadlife #parenting #dadpodcast #fatherhood #intentionalfatherhood #familyvalues

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QUOTES

• "I wanna be remembered as a good husband, a good father, a follower of Jesus... I wanna be remembered as a courageous person... I can't control whether my kids are afraid or scared of something, but I always want them to feel that they've got somewhere in them, somewhere in their heritage, somewhere in their spirit, a reservoir of courage that they can tap into."
• "I'm so dialed into what success looks like in my career... I can tell you if I'm on track, off track on anything, but I have no idea how it's all feels as a dad... you can only control the outcomes so much, but there's so much that you can control as far as the inputs."
• "I want these moments where we ramp up the intensity a little bit... it's immediately putting you in a space of both physical and spiritual discomfort and a little bit of vulnerability. But for men, the physical discomfort almost overrides your awareness of how spiritually uncomfortable you might be."
• "I was challenged for the first time to think in like a decade thing... when I think about wanting to have a strong relationship with my kids as adults, what are the things that I need to be doing today to set the tone for that?"
• "Personally I wanted an environment where it felt like I don't know what's gonna come out of this. I don't know when a guy's gonna step up to this blocking sled. I don't know what he's gonna say right before he pushes this thing down ten yards downfield."

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SUMMARY:

What happens when two dads strap GoPros to paddleboards and hit the lake at 5:45 in the morning? In this episode, Jeff sits down with longtime friend Tyler Van Eps for a raw, reflective conversation about intentional fatherhood, family rhythms, and what it looks like to lead your kids with purpose. From milestone trips to weekly family huddles to quarterly prayer rhythms, Tyler shares the experiments his family has been running...

FIVE KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Fatherhood moves through three distinct seasons of investment: physical, time, and emotional, and knowing which season you're in changes how you show up.
2. A weekly family huddle built around purpose, vision, and values gives your kids a compass they will eventually use to call out greatness in each other.
3. Milestone trips don't have to be expensive or elaborate because what your kids remember most is being pulled out of the normal lineup and seen as an individual.
4. The goal is not to control your family's calendar but to steward it, which means learning when to add things and when to subtract them without shame.
5. Adopting a posture of exploration in your fatherhood is far more sustainable than building rigid rules, because it invites your family into the journey with you.

TOP QUOTES

1. "Instead of being an amazing leader and a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad and a decent leader."
2. "Follow Jesus, live with enthusiasm, and fight for family. The fight for family came out of, hey guys, we gotta stop fighting with our family and we gotta figure out a way to fight for our family."
3. "There has to be a surrender that's kind of fundamental to the way that you approach fatherhood and family and faith."
4. "Soaking in the moments of peace and allowing them to be there with the assumption that disruptions are around the corner."
5. "If I'm not a steward of the time God's given me with my kids, there are these core memories that I could just be blazing by without even realizing it."

GUEST

Tyler Van Eps is a husband, father of four, and Senior Vice President at the National Christian Foundation Twin Cities, where he serves families and business owners around the stewardship of generational wealth and kingdom-minded generosity. A longtime friend of the Dad Awesome community, Tyler has joined the show multiple times including a campfire conversation and a tree fort recording. He is passionate about leading with purpose, living with enthusiasm, and building a family culture rooted in faith.

LINKS

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Your emotional detachment might be quietly wounding the people you love most.

In PART 2 of our Father's Day LOOK-BACK, Jeff resurfaces five more conversations that hit different the second time around.

✅ Why your kids can feel when you've checked out emotionally

✅ How to stop pointing your kids to yourself as the source of life

✅ The dad who never raised his voice and what it did to his son

✅ What "unhurried presence" actually looks like in everyday moments

✅ The hard truth about emotional regulation every dad needs to hear

INVITATION

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SUMMARY

In Part 2 of this Father's Day look-back series, Jeff Zaugg resurfaces five more powerful conversations from the past dad year, featuring Jeremy Pryor, Ted Cunningham, Pastor Tim Timberlake, Mac Lake, and Seth Dahl. The clips cover a dad's superpower of emotional detachment and how it can quietly wound the people he loves most, the faulty input-output theory of parenting and why God is the only true source of life, the transformative power of tone and speaking to the king in your child instead of the fool, the gift of unhurried presence and what it looks like to truly savor your kids, and the hard truth that a man who can't regulate his emotions forces his family to do it for him. This episode is a flyover packed with activation, challenge, and the kind of dad wisdom that sticks.

KEY QUOTES

• "My kids can actually feel that. Like, if something were to happen to me, I think dad would be the least affected." — Jeremy Pryor, Ep. 415
• "My source is Jesus, not you." — Ted Cunningham, Ep. 417
• "In us we have both a fool and a king. The one that you address is the one that will respond." — Pastor Tim Timberlake, Ep. 424
• "A posture of unhurried presence. So often we are present with our kids, but we're not present with our kids." — Mac Lake, Ep. 435
• "A man who can't regulate his emotions forces his wife and kids to do it for him." — Seth Dahl, Ep. 429

TAKEAWAYS

1. Your emotional detachment is a superpower that can become a weapon. Dads are wired to disconnect under pressure, and that's often a gift. But when that same skill gets used to keep your family at arm's length, your kids feel it. The question isn't how attached you feel. It's whether they feel attached to you.
2. You were never meant to be the source. Pouring into your kids so they pour back into you is a trap. Your job, according to Deuteronomy 6, is to point them every single day to the only true source of life. Fire yourself. Fire your kids. God in heaven is the source.
3. Tone is one of the greatest gifts a dad can give. Pastor Tim Timberlake's father never raised his voice, never disciplined from anger or frustration, and the love in his tone did the convicting. Your size, your volume, your first response, those things mark your kids. Speak to the king in them, not the fool.
4. Unhurried presence is a posture, not a schedule. Mac Lake leaves adult conversations to throw a football for 60 minutes if that's what his grandkids want. The shift is simple but hard: let your kids be the thing that matters most in the moment, not an interruption to what actually matters.
5. Emotional self-control is a fruit your family gets to eat. When you're getting triggered by your six-year-old, you're not parenting. You're asking them to regulate you. The Holy Spirit wants to grow self-control in you so your family is nourished by it. Your heart is upstream to everything in your home.

LINKS

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• Jeremy Pryor — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/415
• Ted Cunningham — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/417
• Pastor Tim Timberlake — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/424
• Seth Dahl — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/429
• Mac Lake — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/435

It's Father's Day week and we're doing something special.

In Part 1 of The Dad Year Lookback, Jeff Zaugg revisits five conversations that stirred something deeper this year, featuring Dave Brickey, Lance Welch, Dr. Jake Smith, Chris Cirullo, and Craig Allen Cooper.

✅ Why your weakness as a dad might be your greatest strength

✅ The difference between raising kids in the gap vs. the gain

✅ How to stop dismissing your own feelings before you dismiss your kids'

✅ God's call for dads to be bringers of order, not complainers of disorder

✅ The secret gift of a minivan that turned an atheist toward Jesus

You don't have to do the miracles. You just have to be tight with the man who did. 🙏

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SUMMARY

In this Father's Day special, Jeff Zaugg revisits five of the most impactful conversations from the past "dad year"... Featuring voices like Pastor Dave Brickey, Dr. Jake Smith, and Craig Allen Cooper. The clips explore the transformative power of fatherly weakness and repentance, the damage of performance-based parenting, the importance of emotional self-awareness, the biblical call to create order in family life, and the ripple effect of quiet, Jesus-fueled generosity. It's a looking-back episode that's really about looking up — because the best thing a dad can do for his kids is stay close to the One who can do what we can't.

TAKEAWAYS

1. Your weakness as a dad is not a liability — it's a bridge. When you humbly repent and admit you need Jesus, your kids see who their real Savior is.
2. Raising kids in "the gap" (measuring what they fell short of) creates a performance identity that damages their sense of worth. Celebrate the gain — the progress they've made.
3. Defensiveness and dismissiveness toward your kids often starts with dismissing your own feelings. Learning to name what's going on inside you is the first step to staying steady.
4. God designed dads to be bringers of order — not complainers of disorder. Reverse engineer a family vision, create systems, and name the chaos so your kids can learn to do the same.
5. You don't have to do the miracles. You just have to be tight with the man who did. Small, unseen acts of generosity done close to Jesus can change the trajectory of another family forever.

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QUOTES

1. "My strength points my kids to me as their savior, but my weakness points them to who my savior is." — Pastor Dave Brickey, Ep. 391
2. "You lead with your strengths, but you connect through your weaknesses." — Pastor Dave Brickey, Ep. 391
3. "My heavenly Father has set the scoreboard to infinity." — Jeff Zaugg, reflecting on Ep. 394 with Lance Welch
4. "I don't get to choose what feelings I have. I only choose what I do with them." — Dr. Jake Smith, Ep. 398
5. "He can't walk on water — but he just might be tight with the man that did." — Walker Hayes (via Craig Allen Cooper, Ep. 418)

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Dave Brickey — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/391

Lance Welch — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/394

Dr. Jake Smith — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/398

Chris Cirullo — https://www.dadawesome.org/blog/410

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There's NO scoreboard for a healthy marriage—and no quarterly report on your kids' souls. 📊🚫

Gabe Biedenbaugh is back for Part 2, and this conversation goes deep on what really matters at home.

✅ Why chasing a "scoreboard" at home is a trap (and what to measure instead)

✅ Covering your daughters vs. sending out your sons—a powerful picture of spiritual authority

✅ The eulogy drill: a simple exercise that will change how you lead your family

True legacy isn't how you're remembered. It's what your family still does when you're gone. 🔥

SUMMARY

There's no quarterly report for your marriage and no scoreboard for your kids' souls—so why do so many dads keep looking for one? In part two of this conversation, Gabe Biedenbaugh exposes the scoreboard trap and shares the vision statements that guide his marriage and parenting. Plus, he unpacks a powerful perspective on covering your daughters versus sending out your sons, and why true legacy isn't how you're remembered—it's what your family still does when you're gone.

TAKEAWAYS

• It's a trap to look for a scoreboard at home. Winning at home is consistency, owning your mistakes, and asking for forgiveness quickly.
• The best gift you can give your children is a healthy marriage. Aim to be more in love when your kids leave than you are right now.
• Sons are sent out to start new families; daughters remain under their father's spiritual covering until that authority is transferred at the wedding.
• The foundation of your life matters far more than the facade. A bridge that looks good but lacks integrity is a bridge no one should cross.
• Identity is not something to be discovered—it's something to be received from God.
• Legacy isn't how you're remembered. It's what your family still carries on—in faith, discipline, and character—when you're gone.

GUEST

Gabe Biedenbaugh is a pastor, men's ministry leader, and the founder of The Forge, an online ministry helping men find clear, God-given direction for their lives. Every Friday, he sends out his "Forge Fridays" email, and he created the 21 Days guided reset to help men establish direction and become who God designed them to be. Gabe and his wife have four children—three sons and a daughter—and live in St. Augustine, Florida.

QUOTES

1. "There is no scoreboard for a healthy marriage. There's no quarterly report of how your kids are doing in their soul." — Gabe Biedenbaugh
2. "Winning at home is being consistent at home." — Gabe Biedenbaugh
3. "The best gift you can give your children is a healthy marriage." — Gabe Biedenbaugh
4. "The foundation matters so much more than what you put on the facade." — Gabe Biedenbaugh
5. "Identity is not something to be discovered—it's something to be received." — Gabe Biedenbaugh
6. "Legacy is not how you're remembered. It's what your family still does when you're gone." — Gabe Biedenbaugh
7. "I want dads to be tough and tender." — Gabe Biedenbaugh
8. "Motivation can last for a season, but motivation will not sustain you. Inspiration will." — Gabe Biedenbaugh

LINKS

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SUMMARY

Pastor Gabe Biedenbaugh opens up about the generational faith handed down to him, the shame that nearly disqualified him from his calling, and the "you're not enough" lie so many men carry. In part one of this Father's Day conversation, he shows why vulnerability, brotherhood, and a heart to serve are the way home.

TAKEAWAYS

• The legacy of faith can start with one man stepping in — Gabe's grandfather died young, and other men fathered his dad.
• Shame attacks your identity; conviction shows you the way out, condemnation just says you're the problem.
• Beat the lie head-on: "I'm not enough, but Christ in me is more than enough."
• Vulnerability in real brotherhood is where men get unstuck and find freedom.
• A dad living free brings joy home; serving (not being served) is the posture — "leaders are into towels, not titles."

QUOTES

• "Satan's goal isn't to tell you a blatant lie — it's to tell you something so close to the truth you believe it."
• "My job isn't to fill someone else's cup — it's to empty mine, and let God do what He wants with it."
• "Conviction says you've made a mistake, but here's the way out. Condemnation says, no — you're the problem."
• "When you have shame in your life, it impacts the way you bring your best, or lack thereof, to your family."
• "I want to walk into my home with the attitude of Jesus, who took off his garment to wash feet."

LINKS

• Join the DadAwesome Prayer Team: Text "pray" to (651) 370-8618

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• Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text "Dad" to (651) 370-8618

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SUMMARY

Most men are getting lived by their lives instead of actually living them. In this conversation, Alan Briggs unpacks how a life of constant escape leaves us empty at the end of the day, and what it looks like to design something we can actually engage with instead. From Yes Days with your kids to preparing for the car ride home the way you'd prepare for a business meeting, Alan brings practical insight that will reshape how you show up as a dad this week.

TAKEAWAYS

---The best dads aren't the ones with the most time. They're the ones who prepare for the small moments with the same intentionality they bring to work.

---A coming of age year for your son doesn't require waking up at 4 a.m. It just requires showing up consistently and inviting other trusted men to speak life into him.

---Celebrate who your kids actually are instead of trying to make them love what you love. Curiosity is the doorway to connection.

---We were built for both meaningful work and real rest. Without a healthy theology of both, we swing between burnout and apathy.

---The question that changes everything: What is the good life for you and your family three years from now?

GUEST

Alan Briggs is a coach, author, and adventurer based in Colorado Springs. He runs two and a half companies, including a coworking space, and spends his days helping leaders find a lighter, more sustainable way to live and work. He's the author of multiple books, including his latest resource on anti-burnout, and the host of his own podcast for leaders. Alan and his wife are raising four kids ranging from 12 to 23, including two adopted children. He loves the mountains, disc golf with his son, and learning to cheer for his kids in the worlds they love most.

QUOTES

• "Most men are getting lived by their lives. They are not living their lives. They are letting choices make them. They are not making intentional choices."
• "I prepare for business meetings. Do I prepare that well for a date with my wife, a date with my daughter, a car ride? Almost always, no."
• "You don't have to be up at 4 a.m. with your kid. You don't have to do it every day. But do something that affirms you've got what it takes."
• "Celebrate exactly who they are and exactly what they love doing, instead of trying to make them love the things that you love doing."
• "We are not the sum of what we carry. Our identity and who we are loved by is so much more important than what we are as dads."

LINKS

• Join the DadAwesome Prayer Team: Text "pray" to (651) 370-8618

• Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome

• Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort

• Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618

• Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome

• 7-Day Video Series: dadawesome.org/book

• DadAwesome Podcast: dadawesome.org/podcast

• Free Chapter + Intro Video Series: dadawesome.org/book

• Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected]

• Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text "Dad" to (651) 370-8618

• Dad Awesome book: dadawesome.org/book

• Alan Briggs - H2LEADERSHIP

• Alan's BOOKS

🎙️ Brandon Lake's dad on the DadAwesome podcast.

Mac Lake (a.k.a. "Pops") joins us for a powerful conversation on speaking life, leading at home, and shaping your kids into who God already sees them to be.

✅ The biblical definition of leader — disciple, servant, apostle (and why "I'm not much of a leader" is insecurity, not humility)

✅ How a posture of unhurried presence changes everything (Pops TV, dinosaur eggs, and football for 60 minutes if they want 60)

✅ Why discipline is discipleship — and how to stop disciplining out of a wounded ego

SUMMARY

The words you speak to your kids today become the voice inside their head for the rest of their lives — for better or worse. In this episode, Mac Lake (yes, that Mac — Brandon Lake's dad) shares the leadership wisdom he's spent a lifetime giving away: how to speak life over your kids, why "I'm not much of a leader" is insecurity in disguise, and how a biblical definition of leader — disciple, servant, apostle — changes how you show up at home. Plus Pops TV, dinosaur eggs, and why discipline is discipleship.

TAKEAWAYS

• Leadership in your home requires both spirit and skill. David shepherded with integrity of heart and skillful hands — don't lean only on business-style competence, and don't go passive at home either.
• Your words become your child's inner voice — so speak life. Get on your knee, look them in the eye, tell them you're proud of them and why. Be their biggest cheerleader, not their biggest critic.
• Build a faith legacy by telling the works of God in your family. Like Asaph in Psalm 78, your kids should know specific stories of how God has shown up for your family, not just for Israel.
• Unhurried presence is the gift most dads underestimate. Put the phone away, leave the adult conversation, throw the football for 60 minutes if they want 60 minutes — they need you fully there, not just nearby.
• Discipline is discipleship — not ego protection. When kids misbehave, it's not a verdict on your identity. Shape them into the image of Christ instead of reacting from your wounded ego.

GUEST

Mac Lake is a pastor, leadership coach, and the founder of The Multiplication Center, where he trains church leaders to identify and develop multiplying leaders. He's the author of The Multiplication Effect and has spent decades coaching pastors and executives in leadership pipeline development. He and his wife Cindy ("CeCe") have three grown kids — including worship artist Brandon Lake — and six grandkids who know him as "Pops." They live in South Carolina.

LINKS

• Join the DadAwesome Prayer Team: Text "pray" to (651) 370-8618

• Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome

• Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort

• Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text the word "Dad" to (651) 370-8618

• Send a Voice Message to DadAwesome

• 7-Day Video Series: dadawesome.org/book

• DadAwesome Podcast: dadawesome.org/podcast

• Free Chapter + Intro Video Series: dadawesome.org/book

• Apply to join the next DadAwesome Accelerator Cohort: Email [email protected]

• Subscribe to DadAwesome Messages: Text "Dad" to (651) 370-8618

• Dad Awesome book: dadawesome.org/book

• The Multiplication Effect by Mac Lake

• Wild at Heart by John Eldredge (referenced)

• Brandon Lake — music and ministry