Date Like A Nerd

😮‍💨 You've been on the dating apps for a while and got nothing. Or you finally talked to someone, and it went badly. Now a small voice says you're just not meant to find love, and you're tempted to stop trying. In video games, losing a fight gives you information. In dating, one bad outcome can feel like a verdict on who you are. 

🎮 In this episode, Steve Kamb explains why that gap exists and what to do about it. Steve founded Nerd Fitness, which has helped nerds for almost two decades, and he recently published the book How to Try Again. Because much of his work has been on helping people who have almost given up.

🧠 You'll learn why "I failed at this" and "I am a failure" are two very different statements, and how mixing them up keeps many people stuck. Steve also walks through his PACT framework to help you get unstuck. It gives you a way to tell when what you're doing isn't working, how to stay honest about your real limits without giving up, and how to test something new without so much pressure.

🧪 Dating isn't about just doing more of the same thing. Steve will show you how to treat your next step as an experiment instead of a pass/fail exam. You'll also hear how to be okay with being bad at something at first, and why hope works better when it comes with action. We also talk about how friends and a good support system can make trying again feel a lot lighter.

🎧 Listen now if you're exhausted of dating and wondering whether it's worth another try. You might leave with a new way to try again 🎲

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Steve Kamb's Bio:

Steve Kamb is the bestselling author of How to Try Again and founder of Nerd Fitness, an approachable fitness community for people of all shapes and sizes. Since 2009, he has published a popular newsletter that combines empathetic behavior change research, humor, and pop-culture. These essays help people fail compassionately, navigate chaos, and try again differently.

Kamb has given talks on stages at conferences around the country, spoken at Google and Meta, and has guest-lectured at Vanderbilt University. He lives in Nashville, TN, where he plays golf decently and music poorly.

Steve Kamb's Links:

• Instagram: https://instagram.com/stevekamb
• Threads: http://threads.com/stevekamb
• Substack: https://substack.com/@stevekamb
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stevekamb/

Related Episodes:

• Rejected, Friendzoned, and Not Reading the Signals: the Nerd Love Story of Vir and Diego
• Beat the Fear of Rejection Through Your Gamer’s Journey, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
• Gamify Your Dating Anxiety, with Michael Berger
• IRL Lessons from Video Games, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
• Level Up Your Social Skills Using Online Gaming Communities, with Kaylee Lopez
• Never Know What to Say? Play "Speak Without Freezing," with Catherine Richardson
• Learn to Flirt Using Dungeons and Dragons, with DND Charli

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:02:24 Feeling Like A Failure vs Failing
• 00:10:51 Pause When Nothing Works
• 00:16:10 Accept How Things Are
• 00:21:08 Change Something and Experiment
• 00:29:18 Try And Start Ugly
• 00:37:26 How to Git Gud at Dating
• 00:40:34 Pre-accepting Finding What Works
• 00:47:09 How to Pick a Strategy
• 00:51:04 Making it Enjoyable
• 00:54:00 Friends Give You Hope
• 01:00:31 Final Thoughts
• 01:02:14 Contact Info

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

🍷 Giving up on dating is common if you focus on getting DATES when what you actually want is a relationship. But does dating actually lead to a long-term relationship? Sometimes, yes. But throughout all my surveys, most couples actually started as friends (no, most weren't just "bad at dating"). After all, many who are good at dating end up marrying their friend 💍

👀 In this episode, Chris shares how he couldn't find someone to settle down with, even if he had no trouble getting dates or hookups. Apparently, those only happened because he was doing what he was "supposed to do": He dressed properly, tried to play the games that those women wanted, and never showed his nerd side. He was getting dates. And yet, he'd given up on dating as a means to find a wife.

📱 And then, Annah came into the picture. Not as someone he could realistically build a relationship with (she lived too far away). But as a fellow nerd he could just connect with over his love of Star Wars 🛸 Soon, Instagram comments turned into a private conversation, which later developed into a strong friendship... with a little flirting on the side.

🔍 If you've been focusing on getting dates but what you really want is a relationship with someone who loves you for who you are, this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen to Chris and Annah's nerd love story and learn why dating may not be what you should be focusing on!

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Chris' links:

• https://www.instagram.com/cinema.hooked/
• https://www.threads.com/@cinema.hooked
• https://www.youtube.com/@CinemaHookedCHRIS
• facebook.com/CinemaHooked
• tiktok.com/@cinemahookedchris

Related Episodes:

• Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
• The Twitch Streamer on Discord, the Nerd Love Story of Luna and Jason
• From No Dates to Feeling Truly Seen and Accepted: Kirk's Story
• Cold Approaches Failed. One Night With New Friends Worked, Mrinal’s Nerd Dating Transformation
• Two Nerds Afraid of Rejection Who Wouldn't Be Engaged Without Their Friends, the Nerd Love Story of CJ and Ajax

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:50 What Makes Chris a Nerd
• 00:01:41 A Social Media Love Story
• 00:06:33 How to Slide Into Her DMs
• 00:09:40 Leaving The Friend Zone
• 00:12:30 Giving Up On Dating
• 00:16:31 Finding Someone Special
• 00:20:11 Starting as Friends
• 00:25:00 Meeting In Person
• 00:34:34 Getting Cat-fished
• 00:38:19 Being Yourself
• 00:40:51 Getting Dates Doesn't Mean Getting a Relationship
• 00:47:24 Closing Thoughts

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

🎮 If you're hoping that gaming turns into dating, you might be doing it backwards. The couples I surveyed who met through video games almost never started with romantic intent. They started as friends, full stop. And Mariah and Corey's story is no exception.

🔪 Corey wasn't trying to meet anyone. He'd just gotten off the road as a truck driver, hadn't touched a video game in three years, and only logged into Dead by Daylight because his brother wouldn't stop bugging him about it. When Mariah joined, she was also brand new to the game and was getting used as bait by everyone else.

😬 Watching the group gang up on the new person is an easy thing to ignore, especially when she's not "your" friend to begin with. But Corey just quietly pulled her aside and showed her the ropes. It's a small, almost invisible decision that the others didn't bother making.

🧠 Have you ever wondered if that kind of quiet, friendly consistency actually counts for anything? You might be surprised. Because when it comes to finding love through video games, that is how it usually works.

🎧 Listen to learn how a horror game could turn into your nerd love story!

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Mariah's Links:

https://www.instagram.com/missmariahbcosplay/

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Cosplay wishlist! ❤️ throne.com/missmariahbcosplay

https://www.facebook.com/Missmariahbcosplay/

Corey's Links:

https://www.instagram.com/sawyermedia.815/

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Related Episodes:

• Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
• Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: the Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian
• The TTRPG Group, the Nerd Love Story of Frank and Mouse
• Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose
• IRL Lessons from Video Games, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
• How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont”
• Level Up Your Social Skills Using Online Gaming Communities, with Kaylee Lopez
• How to Leave the Friend Zone: The Master Plan, the Nerd Love Story of Nicole & David

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:46 What Makes Them Nerds
• 00:01:47 Dead by Daylight with Friends
• 00:04:48 The Ex In The Game
• 00:08:11 The Nice Guy
• 00:13:50 Getting Out Of The Game
• 00:18:22 Moving In Together As Friends
• 00:20:46 From Flatmates to Lovers
• 00:24:46 The Confession
• 00:28:05 The Fear of Rejection
• 00:34:22 The Importance of Friends
• 00:37:55 Closing Remarks

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

😤 "Just Be Yourself" is the most claiché dating advice. But this episode shows you why not showing your nerd self may be keeping you from marrying your Player 2. Because you often don't know what you might be missing until you let your guard down.

🙅‍♀️ In this episode, Emmy and Brian share how they could not stand each other for 3 years, even though they shared the same social circles. She thought he was fake. He thought she was too much. Neither of them had any idea they would end up married.

✨ Then one weekend, Brian stopped performing. He wore his nerdy shirts, made his geeky jokes, and let himself be silly without worrying about what anyone thought. That was the first time Emmy actually saw him. And that was all it took.

🎮 If you've been toning yourself down around people you want to impress, hiding your nerd side because you're afraid of how it will land, this episode is for you. The version of you that you keep tucked away might be exactly the version your Player 2 has been waiting to meet.

🎧 Listen to Emmy and Brian's story and find out what happens when you finally let yourself be seen.

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related Episodes:

• The Dirty Otaku Who Stopped Performing, the Nerd Love Story of Brian and Teiko
• Rejected, Friendzoned, and Not Reading the Signals: the Nerd Love Story of Vir and Diego
• Shy meets Socially Anxious, and Going Slow: the Nerd Love Story of Steven and Christin
• Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: the Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian
• The Tolkien Association: Where to Meet Nerds, with Vir
• The TTRPG Group, the Nerd Love Story of Frank and Mouse
• Cosplayers and Conventions, the Nerd Love Story of Elyse and Matt
• How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont”
• "You're Nice But I'm Not Interested" After Every First Date, Aaron's Nerd Dating Transformation
• Cold Approaches Failed. One Night With New Friends Worked, Mrinal’s Nerd Dating Transformation 
• How to Leave the Friend Zone: The Master Plan, the Nerd Love Story of Nicole & David

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:59 What Makes Emmy a Nerd
• 00:04:20 A Bad First Impression
• 00:07:58 The Big Change
• 00:12:00 Becoming a Confident Nerd
• 00:15:34 Starting A Conversation
• 00:17:44 Long-Distance Friendship
• 00:20:08 Admitting They Didn't Like Each Other
• 00:24:00 Dealing with Social Anxiety and Introversion
• 00:27:35 What Flirting Can Look Like
• 00:36:52 Dating Your Friend's Ex

#datelikeanerd #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

🎲 Practicing flirting can feel creepy... unless you know where to do it safely. Bars, clubs, dating apps, or a real conversation with someone you actually like are where things can go very wrong. But nerds have an alternative that is both safe and fun. Where mistakes aren't punished, but celebrated! 🥳

🧠 Charli (aka DND Charli) is a science communicator, neurodivergent DM, and creator of the Your Brain on DND series on TikTok and Instagram. In this episode, she breaks down the neuroscience behind why TTRPGs can work as a social skills training ground, including flirting. From mirror neurons to the Proteus Effect, she covers why your brain can't fully tell the difference between what happens in-game and what happens in real life.

🗡️ When you play a confident character, your brain starts to build evidence that you can be confident. When you give a compliment in character, and it lands, your brain logs that as a win. This is the Proteus Effect in action: play a trait long enough, and it starts to become yours. Over time, those in-game reps transfer, not all at once, and not because you decided to, but subtly and automatically.

💬 We also get into flirting with your friends at the D&D table, how to do it without making things awkward, and why the in-character-to-real-life progression might be the low-pressure flirting practice you've been looking for. It's a safe space where you feel supported by people you've had countless adventures with. Romance can make for even more incredible stories for the bards to tell.

🎧 If you've been wanting to learn how to flirt without feeling like a creep, roll for initiative and Press Start!

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Charli's Links:

• https://www.instagram.com/dndcharli
• https://www.tiktok.com/@dnd_charli

Related Episodes:

• The TTRPG Group, the Nerd Love Story of Frank and Mouse
• Beat the Fear of Rejection Through Your Gamer’s Journey, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
• Gamify Your Dating Anxiety, with Michael Berger
• From No Dates to Feeling Truly Seen and Accepted: Kirk's Story
• Level Up Your Social Skills Using Online Gaming Communities, with Kaylee Lopez
• Dungeons and Dragons + TTRPGs: Where to Meet Nerds, with Sean (aka MrShickadance)
• Never Know What to Say? Play "Speak Without Freezing," with Catherine Richardson

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:43 How TTRPGs Help with Social Skills
• 00:06:52 Become More Confident
• 00:13:41 Flirting with Your DnD Party
• 00:20:34 Just Be Yourself
• 00:30:05 Bonding With Players
• 00:34:45 Tips to Get Started
• 00:37:35 Contact

#datelikeanerd #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

🤨 Do you need friends if you want to find your Player 2? Not necessarily. But they can certainly help! From making introductions to inviting you to the right place at the right time, helping you overcome your fear of rejection, or dating one of them, friends can be the pathway to marriage. CJ and Ajax's story is one of the best examples. It includes every single one of these! ✅

💌 In this episode, CJ shares how they met through a friend in common but couldn't make a move, afraid that they'd get rejected 👻 

Fortunately, they had friends who refused to let them miss their shot. Not once. Not twice. Three times, their friends stepped in at just the right moment to keep the story moving forward 💪

👀 Because here's the thing nobody talks about: your social circle isn't just where you find dates. It's the supporting structure that makes dating possible in the first place. Without it, two people who were clearly meant to be together and lived 15 minutes away from each other might have stayed strangers forever.

🎧 Press Start and discover how finding the right friends can lead you to love! ❤️

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Calix and Ajax's Links:

• https://www.instagram.com/pixelboycos/
• https://www.instagram.com/seiphcos/

Related Episodes:

• Animé Los Angeles: Where to Meet Nerds, with Matt
• Cosplayers and Conventions, the Nerd Love Story of Elyse and Matt
• Rejected, Friendzoned, and Not Reading the Signals: the Nerd Love Story of Vir and Diego
• How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont”
• From Cosplay Competition to Long Distance Love: A Convention Crush Love Story with Bimini and Riv

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:00:43 What Makes Calix a Nerd
• 00:02:09 Don't Hide That You're A Nerd
• 00:05:27 How it Started
• 00:10:51 Cosplay Conversations
• 00:16:42 Moving Things Forward
• 00:19:50 Convention
• 00:25:47 Friend Intervention #2
• 00:30:17 First Date Invite... As Friends
• 00:37:39 Friend Intervention #3
• 00:39:07 Failed Confession
• 00:41:15 Friend Intervention #4
• 00:45:36 Previous Dating Experience
• 00:48:48 Finding His Person
• 00:54:34 Closing

#datelikeanerd #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast #cosplay #cosplayer #cosplaycouple

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

💬 You're in a group. You know you want to say something. You just can't find the right time. The conversation moves on, the moment passes, and you spend the rest of the evening wondering why it's so hard to just speak up 😶

🎮 In this episode, I talk to Catherine Richardson, a psychologist specializing in geek culture and mental health. She blends Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with gaming and pop culture to support neurodivergent professionals. And she just created something that might change how you think about social skills entirely.

🕹️ It's called "Speak Without Freezing," a free visual novel designed to help you practice what to say before you actually have to say it. Not by giving you a script to memorize, but by letting you rehearse in an environment where there's no social cost. Think of it as a dating sim, except instead of trying to win someone over, you're working on yourself 💪

⚠️ But here's the challenge: practicing something in a game and actually doing it in real life are two very different things. So how does muscle memory work when the stakes are real? And what do you do when the social rules change depending on who you're with, what culture you're in, or even what room you walk into? 🗺️

 🧊 If you ever freeze up during conversations, go quiet at the worst moment, or wait so long to say something that everyone has already moved on, this episode is for you. 

🎧 Press Start and learn how to speak without freezing! 🥶

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Catherine's Links:

• www.geekmentalwellbeing.com
• https://www.instagram.com/geekmentalwellbeing/

Related Episodes:

• Level Up Your Social Skills Using Online Gaming Communities, with Kaylee Lopez
• Gamify Your Dating Anxiety, with Michael Berger
• IRL Lessons from Video Games, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
• How to Approach Your Gym Crush (Without Being A Creep), with Jordan Yaklin
• Shy meets Socially Anxious, and Going Slow: the Nerd Love Story of Steven and Christin
• Introverted Nerds on Dating Apps, the Nerd Love Story of Phillip and Darcy

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:00 Speak Without Freezing
• 00:03:19 How it Helps with Social Anxiety
• 00:07:37 Social Anxiety and Perfection
• 00:12:22 Skills to Learn
• 00:14:55 Dating Sims
• 00:19:37 How to Apply the Skills IRL
• 00:22:14 Playing the Game While in Therapy
• 00:23:57 Not Waiting for Perfection
• 00:25:46 Adapting to Different People
• 00:31:48 Social Anxiety and Cold Approaches
• 00:36:55 Catherine's Links

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

🐉 What happens when a weeb shows up to meet a potential client in sweatpants, messy hair, and zero game? Apparently... marriage and kids!

🎌 Brian had been "putting himself out there" for years. He thought he was doing everything right. He was in shape, playing rugby, feeling charismatic and confident. But something kept getting in the way, and it wasn't his hobbies, his looks, or his love of anime.

It finally took a coworker's offhand connection, a client he had absolutely no intention of dating, and a friend pulling him aside and pointing out what he had been missing all along.

⚠️ The most interesting part of Brian's story isn't how he met his wife. It's what he had been doing before her, why it wasn't working, and what did!👾 If you've ever felt like you should know how to date but can't get past the tutorial, this episode is for you 🕹️

🎧 Press Play and learn from Brian's evolution! 💪

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Brian's Links:

• https://www.instagram.com/anime_help_hotline/
• https://www.patreon.com/Anime_Help_Hotline
• https://www.youtube.com/@ahhbriantime
• https://anime-help-hotline.printify.me/
• https://www.tiktok.com/@brianbiglock5

Related Episodes:

• The Hidden Cost of Finding Love With Red Pill Dating: John’s Nerd Love Story
• Cold Approaches Failed. One Night With New Friends Worked, Mrinal’s Nerd Dating Transformation
• "You're Nice But I'm Not Interested" After Every First Date, Aaron's Nerd Dating Transformation
• How to Leave the Friend Zone: The Master Plan, the Nerd Love Story of Nicole & David
• Why You’re Still Single Even If You’re Going to Meetups, with Single Player George
• Animé Los Angeles: Where to Meet Nerds, with Matt
• Tolkien meets Star Wars: The Nerd Love Story of Kaia and Celania
• The TTRPG Group, the Nerd Love Story of Frank and Mouse

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:09 What Makes Brian a Nerd
• 00:01:47 An English Teacher in Japan
• 00:04:48 First Impressions
• 00:09:05 From Professional to Romantic
• 00:12:43 Asking to Hold Hands
• 00:17:28 The Build-Up
• 00:21:09 How Long to Start Dating
• 00:23:41 The Dirty Otaku Roots
• 00:27:03 Being Yourself
• 00:30:34 Becoming a Healthy Otaku
• 00:36:18 Brian's Contacts

#datelikeanerd #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast #otakulife #animelover #nerdlife #datingcoach

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

🎲 Want to find love but hate loud bars and clubs? Tabletop role-playing games like Dungeons and Dragons (DnD) could be your perfect anti-social social quest. But here's the catch: you can't just show up, roll a charisma check, and expect to find your Player 2. You need to actually make friends with the people behind the characters! 🧙‍♂️

🎮 In this episode, Sean (aka Mr. Shickadance), a Dungeon Master and content creator, breaks down exactly where to find TTRPG groups and how to use them to unlock your social tree 🗺️

🎲 Because if you only ever meet for game nights, you'll never get to meet the players behind the characters. After all, what you do outside of the table is what turns your party members into real friends. And from there, you never know who you could meet. That's where the real magic happens. 📝

🔓 No cold approaches. No loud bars or clubs. And no endless swiping only to get ghosted 👻

🎧 Ready to roll for initiative on your social life? Press Start now and start building your IRL party! 🗡️

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

Sean's Links:

• https://linktr.ee/mrshickadance
• https://www.instagram.com/mr_shickadance_/
• https://tiktok.com/@mrshickadance
• https://www.youtube.com/@mr_shickadance_
• https://x.com/MrShickadance_
• https://www.threads.com/@mr_shickadance_
• https://www.twitch.tv/mr_shickadance_

Related Episodes:

• The TTRPG Group, the Nerd Love Story of Frank and Mouse
• How to Leave the Friend Zone: The Master Plan, the Nerd Love Story of Nicole & David
• The Tolkien Association: Where to Meet Nerds, with Vir
• Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose
• Dating In The Tolkien Association, with Jose
• Hobbit Hike: Where to Meet Nerds, with Sompi Harmetz
• Animé Los Angeles: Where to Meet Nerds, with Matt
• Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
• How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont”

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:01 What are TTRPGs
• 00:03:35 Joining A New Group
• 00:07:45 Choosing Your Friends
• 00:13:01 Taking Your Friends Out Of The Container
• 00:15:57 TTRPGs Are Social Games
• 00:20:19 Dating Between Players
• 00:23:19 Be Open to Trying New Things
• 00:27:08 Your First Character
• 00:28:22 Where to Find A D&D Group
• 00:35:41 Where to Find Sean

#datelikeanerd #datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #dnd #ttrpg #ttrpgs #datingcoach

Contact:
[email protected] or
@datelikeanerd on social media

💔 Is it possible to escape the Friend Zone? Or are you worried that if you stay friends too long, you'll miss your shot? 🎯 Most dating advice screams: "Make a move within 3 dates, or you're done!" But what if you're shy? What if they're not ready? What if rushing things actually ruins your best chance at love? 😰

🗺️ Nicole's "master plan" wasn't about pickup lines or manufactured scarcity. It was about creating genuine opportunities to spend time with someone she liked. Through D&D sessions and texts about Nicholas Cage, she built a friendship so solid that when romance finally happened, it led straight to marriage 💍

⚠️ But here's the tricky part: How do you know if you're "being patient" or just wasting your time? How do you create romantic possibilities without being manipulative? And if most couples start as friends... why does everyone tell you to avoid it? 🤨

⏳ If you've ever been stuck wondering whether to confess your feelings or wait it out, worried about "ruining the friendship," or felt like you're doing everything wrong because you're not moving fast enough... this episode will completely reframe how you think about dating 🧠

🎧 Press play to learn this strategy to go from friends to lovers! 🚀

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Nicole's Links:

• https://linktr.ee/tabletopBLT
• https://www.instagram.com/tabletopblt/
• https://www.threads.com/tabletopblt
• https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61564306597098&mibextid=ZbWKwL
• https//discord.com/invite/tabletopblt
• https://tabletopblt.substack.com/?r=6j0isl

Related Episodes:

Rejected, Friendzoned, and Not Reading the Signals: the Nerd Love Story of Vir and Diego

Text Confession Gone Wrong, No Proper Dates, and Critical Fail: the Nerd Love Story of Lud and Mati

Shy meets Socially Anxious, and Going Slow: the Nerd Love Story of Steven and Christin

Physical Escalation from Friends to Lovers: the Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian

The TTRPG Group, the Nerd Love Story of Frank and Mouse

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

00:00:00 Intro

00:00:51 What Makes Her A Nerd

00:03:17 The Wedding Blind Date

00:09:01 First Impressions

00:10:43 Not Ready For A Relationship

00:15:18 The D&D Approach

00:19:57 Leaving the D&D Container

00:22:38 Embracing The Friend Zone

00:32:25 Doubting The Friend Zone

00:38:12 The Master Plan to Leave The Friend Zone

00:45:22 Starting From Friendship

00:47:44 The End of The Friend Zone

00:53:16 Final Thoughts

00:54:38 TTRPGs for Social Skills

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