Ask some difficult questions and you might hear some difficult truths. I ask my mum what my dad was like and how he/their relationship changed and degenerated.

My dad was a bon-viveur and a very advanced swearer. He was always the life and soul of the party, was funny and was a grafter. This didn't last. Transpires my father was also violent, homophobic, abusive, controlling, threatening and that he died in a lonely and sordid manner.

I used this podcast to allay some fears I had that centred around me being like or becoming my father. Mercifully I only have his good attributes.

I speak to my mum about what cancer did to her dad (my grandad) and what it is like to see a relative eaten up by it.

I also ask mum what it was like to have a daughter diagnosed with cancer at 26.

This is a heavy hitter but a worthwhile listen. Topics covered include domestic violence, suicide and alcohol abuse so go in with your eyes (and ears) open.