No one gets into a relationship to break up or get a divorce. We all really believe it is "until death do us part." If you are honest by this time and you are in the process of a break up or divorce, you were both already living in separate worlds. The scary part of  breaking up is that it is hard to do. Mostly because you already categorize yourself as a failure. It will shake every bone in your body. It is very important for you to come to terms with the pain of the break up. It is important to ask yourself continuous questions. Rather than blame your ex-spouse. Questions like, "What has kept me from seeing the signs?" How could I not see it coming? It's important to reflect and take time to explore your mind and heart.