This exploration of 1 Samuel 20:30-34 by Jason Holdridge challenges us to look beyond the surface of family dysfunction and consider the hidden wounds that shape us all.We're invited into the uncomfortable space behind closed doors - where anger flares, shame is weaponized, and control becomes a desperate attempt to manage inner brokenness.The story of Saul and Jonathan reveals a profound truth: every villain has an origin story, and understanding our father's wounds is just as important as acknowledging our own father wounds.Saul began as an insecure farmhand hiding among the baggage, small in his own eyes, yet he transformed into a man hurling spears at his own son.This transformation reminds us that unhealed pain doesn't stay contained - it flows from our interactions with the world into our homes, from verbal abuse to psychological manipulation to physical violence.The message confronts us with difficult questions: Are we guarding our tongues? Are we allowing our children to ask questions? Have we moved from authority to influence as they grow?Most critically, are we taking our anger and shame to God in grief, allowing Him to father the broken places in our lives? Jonathan had the same ingredients as Saul - anger and shame - but he chose grief over retaliation, allowing God to heal rather than repeating the cycle.This is our invitation: to bring our brokenness to the altar and ask God to father us where our earthly parents could not, breaking generational patterns before they define our legacy.Website: https://impact.church Facebook: https://facebook.com/ImpactChurchHome Instagram: https://instagram.com/ImpactChurchHome YouTube: https://youtube.com/@impactchurchhome TikTok: https://tiktokcom/@impactchurchhome