"Be patient" gets treated like a virtue in every system. Sometimes it is. Sometimes it is the line that keeps unfairness in place, because it asks the people carrying the cost to stay quiet so everyone else can stay comfortable.

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano on Dealing With Feeling to talk about what patience looks like when it is wisdom, and what it looks like when it becomes compliance. They also talk about how to interrupt harm without turning it into humiliation.

In this conversation:

• When "be patient" supports growth, and when it protects comfort
• Why "that's just how we do things" can be one of the most dangerous phrases in any system
• Calling people in vs. calling people out, and what each one asks of a leader
• What it means to hold urgency and dignity in the same moment
• A simple reset you can use when tension spikes and you still have to lead
• How to respond when you feel that stomach drop, but you cannot opt out of the room

About the guest: Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano is an Associate Professor at the Yale Child Study Center and the Director of the Education Collaboratory at Yale. She is the author of Be Unapologetically Impatient: The Mindset Required to Change the Way We Do Things.

Connect with Dr. Christina "Chris" Cipriano:

Website: https://www.drchriscip.com

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Dr. Marc Brackett's books:

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER, an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. Thanks also to Oji Life Lab for their generous support. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence, and more, visit https://ojilifelab.com or click the link in the description of this episode and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

We call it "being productive," but for a lot of us it's a nervous system stuck in go mode. Always on. Always bracing. Then someone says "just breathe" and it sounds like a joke.

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with former NFL wide receiver and mindfulness facilitator Brandon "SOUL COLE" Coleman to talk about what happens when performance mode becomes your identity and stillness starts to feel unsafe.

In this conversation:

• The identity crash after injury and why it can trigger anxiety, depression, and shutdown
• Why five minutes a day can actually change your patterns if you stick with it
• Mindfulness vs. breathwork and why "just breathe" isn't enough
• The five senses reset that works for skeptics in under two minutes
• Masculinity, vulnerability, and unlearning "tighten up"
• What it looks like to plant these skills early for kids and communities

About the guest:

Brandon "SOUL COLE" Coleman is a former NFL wide receiver and mindfulness facilitator who helps people build practical tools for regulation, resilience, and real-life performance.

Connect with SOUL COLE:

Instagram: @b_cole16

SOUL Impact Foundation: https://soulimpactfoundation.org

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Dr. Marc Brackett's Books:

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

We call it "normal life."

But for most of us, it's a low-grade chronic stress loop.

News alerts. Group chats. Doomscrolling. Constant urgency.

In this episode of Dealing With Feeling, Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Elisha Goldstein to explore how tiny emotional shifts can interrupt stress patterns, strengthen relationships, and change the trajectory of our health over time.

This is a conversation about emotional longevity — and what it means to stop living in permanent survival mode.

In this conversation:

• Why anxiety is not your identity, but a reinforced loop

• How low-grade stress becomes "the water we swim in"

• Elisha's 4R method: Recognize, Release, Refocus, Reinforce

• Moving from blame into skillful emotional requests in relationships

• How small shifts in real moments create long-term change

About the guest:

Dr. Elisha Goldstein is a clinical psychologist, teacher, and author whose work focuses on mindfulness, resilience, and emotional health.

Guest links:

Website: https://elishagoldstein.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/drelishagoldstein

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Website: https://marcbrackett.com

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Dr. Marc Brackett's Books

• Permission to Feel

• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

Gaslighting is not just an argument. It is a slow erosion of identity.

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with his longtime friend and colleague Dr. Robin Stern to unpack The Gaslight Effect, how anxiety fuels both the gaslighter and the gaslightee, and what it takes to rebuild self-trust. They explore how people don't lose their reality overnight. They lose it in inches, one second-guess at a time.

In this conversation:

• What gaslighting really is and why it is so disorienting
• The three stages of The Gaslight Effect: disbelief, defense, depression
• That first "maybe it wasn't that bad" moment, and why it matters
• How fear of being "the bad one" keeps the cycle going
• How to start rebuilding self-trust after months or years of doubt

About the guest:

Dr. Robin Stern is a psychoanalyst and the Senior Advisor to the Director at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. She is the author of The Gaslight Effect, the Recovery Guide of the same name, the host of The Gaslight Effect podcast and a leading voice on gaslighting and self-trust.

Connect with Marc Brackett:

Website: https://robinstern.com

Instagram: https://instagram.com/dr.robinstern

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Facebook: https://facebook.com/drrobinstern

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/robin-stern-220b403a

Resources:

The Gaslight Effect

The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide

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Dr. Marc Brackett's Books

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

Teens have language for anxiety. Most adults never got language for their own feelings.

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Jamie Lockwood and Liz Fletcher to talk about what it means to raise and teach teens in this mental health moment. Together, they explore why more "mental health talk" hasn't solved the crisis, what teens actually need from adults, and how to support big feelings without shutting down, fixing, or turning everything into a performance.

In this conversation:

• Why teen mental health is declining even with more "mental health talk"
• The adolescent brain "under construction" and why that matters
• Emotion judge vs. emotion scientist, and how teens can make the shift
• Tools used in real school settings (CBT triangle, RAIN, circle of control)
• Co-regulation at home when parents are exhausted, overwhelmed, and scared
• What they wish parents had known about emotions

About the guests:

Jamie Lockwood is a school-based clinician. Liz Fletcher is an educator and parent.

The Teens Guide to Emotions: Our Essential Workbook for Navigating Big Feelings, Decision-Making, and Relationships with Confidence https://www.amazon.com/Teens-Guide-Em...

Website: https://www.fearlessinkpress.com.

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LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/drmarcbrackett

Dr. Marc Brackett's Books

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

We turned happiness into a checklist. Then wondered why it never feels like enough.

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Laurie Santos to unpack the "happiness trap" and the quiet ways we chase the wrong things. They talk about miswanting, why we get obsessed with the future, and how a life that looks good on paper can still feel empty on the inside. You'll hear what the research actually says helps, and the small shifts that make happiness feel more real and more sustainable.

In this conversation:

• Why our brains are so bad at predicting what will make us happy
• The "hyper-focus on the future" that steals joy from the present
• Happy in your life vs. happy with your life, and why that distinction matters
• Why social connection keeps showing up as a happiness "superpower"
• How emotional intelligence and RULER support real well-being, not fake positivity

About the guest:

Dr. Laurie Santos is a Yale psychologist and host of The Happiness Lab.

Listen to The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos:

https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-h...

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Dr. Marc Brackett's Books

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support. Visit https://ojilifelab.com and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

The worst part of anxiety is not the feeling. It's the loop. The "what if" that keeps feeding itself until it feels like truth.

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Judson Brewer to unpack how worry becomes a habit, why reassurance and mental debate often backfire, and how curiosity can disrupt the cycle without forcing you to "think positive."

In this conversation:

• How anxiety becomes a loop: trigger → worry → short relief → more worry
• Why worrying feels like control even when it isn't
• Curiosity as the interrupt that changes the pattern
• Anxiety vs stress vs overwhelm and why precise labeling matters
• A simple way to shift from "oh no" to "oh"

About the guest:

Dr. Judson Brewer is a psychiatrist and neuroscientist who studies habit change and anxiety.

Judd's books: Unwinding Anxiety, The Craving Mind, The Hunger Habit

https://drjud.com

Programs & resources:

https://goingbeyondanxiety.com

https://juddbrewer.substack.com

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Dr. Marc Brackett's Books

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support. Visit https://ojilifelab.com and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

Most of us aren't trying to raise perfect kids. We're trying to raise kids who can handle life without falling apart. The problem is… adults are drowning too.

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Dr. Aliza Pressman on Dealing With Feeling to break down what emotionally healthy parenting actually looks like in real time—especially when your child is melting down, you're depleted, and every instinct is telling you to control the moment.

In this conversation:

• The difference between boundaries and harshness
• Why "all feelings are welcome" doesn't mean all behaviors are
• The five essentials: relationship, reflection, regulation, rules, repair
• Repair after rupture and the language that rebuilds trust
• How to stay steady without becoming permissive or reactive

About the guest:

Dr. Aliza Pressman is a developmental psychologist and co-founding director of the Mount Sinai Parenting Center.

Explore Aliza's work:

Raising Good Humans podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...

Instagram: @raisinggoodhumanspodcast

Mount Sinai Parenting Center: https://www.mountsinai.org/care/parenting-center

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Dr. Marc Brackett's Books

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support. Visit https://ojilifelab.com and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

If you only regulate once you're already at a 10, you're not practicing resilience. You're doing damage control.

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Stephanie Boxerbaum on Dealing With Feeling to unpack why high-achievers resist mindfulness, what "enoughness" actually means when you still care about excellence, and how to build small, real practices that prevent the spiral instead of cleaning it up after.

In this conversation:

• "Don't be a crisis meditator" and what prevention actually looks like
• Why constant problem-solving keeps you tense
• Enoughness without lowering standards
• A discreet reset you can do in under a minute
• How to stay present when parenting stress hits

About the guest:

Stephanie Boxerbaum is Managing Partner at Box Counsel and a certified meditation teacher.

Guest links:

Box Counsel: https://www.boxcounsel.com

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Dr. Marc Brackett's Books

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support. Visit https://ojilifelab.com and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.

When anxiety hits, the impulse is to hide it, power through it, or act fast so it goes away. But what if the stronger move is the pause?

Dr. Marc Brackett sits down with Liza Soberano to talk about what it's like to navigate fear under public pressure, how she uses boundaries and goals to stay grounded, and what it means to choose a response instead of reacting to the moment.

In this conversation:

• Anxiety under the spotlight and why you shouldn't act at the peak
• Goal-setting as a compass when fear spikes
• Boundaries and emotional allies (not yes-men)
• How to slow down the urge to "fix it" fast
• Staying steady while still speaking up

About the guest:

Liza Soberano is a Filipino-American actress and advocate.

Guest link:

Liza Soberano: https://instagram.com/lizasoberano

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Dr. Marc Brackett's Books

• Permission to Feel
• Dealing with Feeling

Explore Marc Brackett's work at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, where he serves as founding director, and learn more about RULER—an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL developed at Yale that supports leaders, educators, students, and families in building emotional intelligence and creating healthier school climates.

A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support. Visit https://ojilifelab.com and use promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.